Adults with autism usually cannot live independently on their own

[RhinoKey]

According to the Daily Mail (I know, I know) here

AIBU in hoping that this is wildly exaggerated (for my DS2's sake if nothing else).

In praise of Bacchus, I'm glad you've a happy marriage, but I think people caring for non verbal incontinent severely autistic loved ones, may struggle with that view.
An ability to keen loudly in perfect pitch while violently flailing, is impressive, but not compensatory for all that can't be understood or done that's left them totally disabled.

Thank you kladdaka and justgetting - I'm sure you're right about the being overwhelmed, and my house being a 'safe space' where she can flap and sing etc without comment or worrying about eye contact. Will think about communication - as you say there's a lot in my example sentence but a simple 'train or bus?' leads to why, what's the context, where are we going, why do you want to know, what do I need to think about, yes I like buses... and then finding out she get bus-sick too late. I'm not sure there's an easy solution! For reference any online test always concludes I'm on the autistic spectrum but I think a substantial part of that is they ask 'do you prefer straight talking to beating around the bush' and 'do you prefer written to spoken communication' - well I'm deaf, what do you expect! Add parents with no social skills and I feel exactly how kladdaka describes quite a lot of the time. Though given how many of my friends have either hearing or autism issues or both, I suspect there's an overlap.

Friend just visited again and seems a lot happier - more singing tends to be good, but also more communicative. Some stresses are easing off, too. She and 3yo were having lots of fun in between arguing over how one ought to play with certain things... I try just to leave them to it unless there's tears!