to think about jacking in my job after only a month?

[bellawilliams]

I've gone back to work 5 days a week (OK so 2 days are just 10-2 so that I can do the pick/up and drop off but the other 3 are 9-5. Having not worked properly fulltime for 9 years (part time and a couple of maternity leaves plus sporadic freelancing over the last 4 years) I knew there would be transition issues but I feel hopelessly out of my depth in the job, and then cannot cope in the evenings with the kids. DP is working very hard so of course the childcare arrangements fall to me, and often he isn't home to do bed/bath/reading/hw etc. I feel like such a failure for even considering leaving the job but I really think I may have bitten off more than I can chew....
The money of course would be badly missed but i've not been bringing in much over the last few years anyway.

Thanks serin, that is good advice. I am really hoping that it won't come to me leaving but it's just good to be able to sound out ideas of how to make it work.

Generally though, I can't believe how bad some people on here try to make you feel when you're already feeling low! If you can't try to help - don't say anything! Sorry for the cheap shot about teachers and summer holidays - I know it's not as easy as it looks - just reacting to her being rude.

how was it rude of me to just comment on the fact there are millions of working mums who due to their dp/dh working different hours have to be the main carer for the kids and the house?

how was it rude of me to suggest that you create a routine?

how was it rude of me to suggest that this is life and if you wish to have a certain lifestyle that having the income from 2 wages create then you have to deal with it?

sorry; I forgot that no one is allowed to state the obvious in case it upsets you

I think you are right OP, it is too much for you and you should quit.