DW works part time in office during school hours and then usually has to work 2-3hrs to catch up on work in evening. I work full-time.We both have similar fairly senior levels of responsibility at work. Occasionally I am asked to help do school run if DW has important early meeting. About 1 month ago DW asked whether I could take DS to school for 2 days last week as she had to be in work early. I agreed but I knew I may have to be away. Plans changed and I had to go on site (about 50miles away) so could not do school run. Told DP about 2 days before I couldn't the school run (although I had known for longer and forgot to tell her) and also that I would be staying away at a hotel for the 2 nights as couldn't be bothered to get up a bit earlier to do 30mins extra commute.
DP seemed upset that I had left her with having to find someone else to do school drop off with short notice, but what are her friends for FFS.
Anyway came home after 2 lovely nights in hotel. DW running around trying to get kids to and from clubs, bathed and fed. I got really upset because she did not drop everything and run to see how I was. Was asked to put DS to bed while she took DD to guides. Got into huge row with DS as would not instantly drop everything to do homework. DW had to step in to sort things out before taking DD out. Did 20mins with son and then football started so took DS downstairs to watch football. DW came home and I told DS to go to bed but I couldn't be bothered to leave the TV so DS upset because no bedtime story and can't clean own teeth properly. DW asked could I please do this as she had some work to do. I shouted no let him go to bed on his own. DW annoyed as had to stop work and sort out DS and then go straight to pick DD up from guides. DW finished with DD about 9.45 (still with 2hrs work to do) and then had a go at me because I should have helped more, I could have you thank you or expressed some appreciation for what she did. I said I was not going to thank her whilst she was in this mood, did she had PMT and then refused to speak to her for rest of evening.
This is in addition to over the past month; forgetting to take car for MOT and then expecting DW to take time off to do this, and getting so drunk one night unable to take wife to appointment the next morning leaving her running around at the last minute making alternative arrangements.
Needless to say I am actually the very fed-up DW in this situations and next time I want to come back as a man.