I should add that I dont spend all day watching Jeremy Kyle or "lunching". I am talking about when you are not feedng/changing/bathing/playing/reading with the kids/school running/cooking/cleaning/washing....this could go on forever, but you get the idea! There are times during the day when the kids are at school and baby is asleep for an hour and I look at the sheer chaos around me (I have 6 kids at home) and think "Ah fuck it" grab a blanket and a book and chill/nap until the baby wakes up, she is 17 weeks and sleeps through at night btw.
I still do all the work but I tend to put the washing on in the evening as the kids uniforms go in after they are in bed with the babys mountain bits of washing. I do the bottles before bed, have a tidy round etc and fit the cleaning in (har har) as and when. So I am on the go on and off until about 11 most nights, but I am a night owl and function well like that.
By doing this I find that I dont resent H as much as I did when I didnt have the odd skive, for the fact that he gets his lunch breaks and days off when I dont. I dont get stroppy when he wants to spend his day off doing naff all because he spends the day seeing to the baby (he hardly sees her during the working week due to his stupidly stupid hours that his boss insists he works), he does the school runs as he likes doing it when he can and I skive the house work but still do the cooking/washing etc. I figure that the dust will still be there tomorrow!
Please dont turn this into a WOHM v SAHM debate btw! This isnt meant like that at all. I have been both, and I fully appreciate how hard being a F/T WOHM is.