to not invite all the children in DS's nursery room to his party?

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DS will be 4 at the end of October. He has attended nursery for 3 years and has grown close to 5 particular boys who he speaks about all the time. He is now in the 3-5year old room and there are quite a number of kids there, most of who he never mentions or sees as he only goes 2 days a week.

For his party I was going to only invite the 5 boys he is friends with as we will also have relatives making about 14 kids in total. The party will be in our house so we can't have too many kids! I just worry that DS will end up saying to someone 'you aren't coming to my party' or something , but I don't want to do a blanket invite esp as other folk don't seem to have done blanket invites from nursery (DS has only been to 2 parties from nursery kids).

AIBU?

YANBU, speak to the parents of the children you want to invite directly. and have a quick chat with ds about how it's rude & unkind to rub others' noses in it :)

Invite who you want to invite.

YANBU at all, there is no hard and fast rule that you have to invite all the children from a dc class etc, as you mentioned there are a fair few not invited. Just tell him that he is having a party and that he has to be nice to other children, and to try and not talk about it at nursery as it might make those children not invited sad. Thats all you can do really.

YANBU....give the invitations to the nursery quietly though so no kids see them and feel upset. And tell DS he's having a party but name no names.

YANBU but at 4yrs of age he'll be old enough for a talk about hurt feelings...so best to have a little chat about not saying 'you're not coming to my party' and all that jazz.