morecrack. I'm not asking them to teach him differently to the rest of the entire school, I'm asking them to acknowledge the fact that he simply doesn't get phonics and help him out insteasd of drumming them into him. Looking at your post there's a lot of words that can't be 'sounded out' - 'taught', 'sight', 'to' being just a few of them. They have acknowledged that he gets extremely stressed out when doing the words because he can't read them, but brush off my concerns with him struggling with phonics.
itsnearly.. out to me isn't spell phonetically, people who can read know that 'ou' makes the 'ow' sound but to a child who doesn't understand phonics and hasn't learnt that sees the o and u seperately, so to him it can't be sounded out. The same with th. He sees that as 2 seperate sounds, not one,
slaveto... I've tried to explain that there are some words that can't be sounded out, but obviously he can't tell this just from looking at a word. If I'm doing it with him, I give him a chance to see if he knows the word, usually he will try sounding it out, so I tell him that this is a word that can't be learnt that way and tell him the word, get him to repeat it back to me then come back to it at the end. But next time it will be the same. He can't distinguish between words that can be sounded out and words that can't. I don't expect him to at that age, but it feels to me that the phonics are just confusing matters no end for him.
Those of you who are saying about spellings being a way of learning to read, I get that now. The more you write a word down and think about how it is spelt is going to help you recognise the word when you see it written down.
Last year we were sent home words for them to learn to read, this year they only do that in school and it is the spellings that are coming home which I didn't realise. Yesterday his teacher had sent a list of words he needs to learn to move up to the next reading level. They are nothing like the spellings he has had. 'said', 'come', 'like', are some examples. None of them are spelt phonetically, so he reads them as 'sad' or 'sid', 'com' and 'lick'.
Obviously I've never learnt phonics. I learnt the alphabet as 'Ay', 'Bee', 'see', 'dee'.. not 'ah', 'ssss', 'd'. I could already read when I started school, and LRDs post has triggered a vague memory of the whole class sitting chanting "see, ay, tee, cat", "dee, oh, jee, dog" for example. Probably oversimplifying, but you get the idea, we never said 'c-a-t, cat'. I want to be able to help him out but as I don't understand it I can't. Thanks for the tips, I will see if he understands what a 'tricky' word is.