SS being called will tear the family apart quite possibly?

[aCwtchIsMoreThanAHug]

i know a family who is living in really dirty conditions, and its just because the mum is lazy. its really really filthy.

the kids GP and HV think that they all live at the grandma's because she wont let people in to the filthy house.

if i phone SS and tell them my concerns she is going to know its only gonna be one of a handful of people who would/could have called them.

she is going to accuse her mother of doing it without a doubt and because she is stubborn she'll prob stop talking to them. her mum will know its going to be me, my mum, or the womans auntie or cousin its not going to be anyone else.
i really dont want to cause a rift in the family because she WILL stop the DCs seeing their grandma etc.

it really is dirty, outside and in, if the eldest DC is naughty its sent to bed with no tea (cant prove this) she wont let anyone in, she says she goes out all day so she doesnt have to face it.

she really needs to have a fright by SS turning up or do i just try and rally a team together armed with black bags and gloves and bleach?

there is loads more details i can give. i dont know what or how SS would handle the info i give them (i mean what would they say to her)

sorry its typed out really quick as i gotta pick my DS up from school soon havent proof read

ANY ADVICE WOULD BE AMAZING THANKYOU!!!! :) :)

just to make sure you all know she is NOT my sister!! lol

It sounds like even if you went and cleaned her home she would not keep it that way, she would sit doing nothing while the dirt built up around her.

I also think the duty of care is to her children and to be honest I don't think she is fit to be a mother, there really is no hardship in keeping a house clean.
Please call the SS you owe it to those children,

I really think a dirty house & being generally unclean is a symptom of depression. Even if you do the deep clean, then who's to say it won't go back to it's former state in a few weeks. She clearly isn't coping & the dirty house is a manifestation (sp?) of that. She needs to develop some proper coping techniques & needs that constant professional support. SS will hopefully provide that for her.

Make the call, I'm sure you won't regret it. God forbid anyone ever have to regret not making that call.