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Is DH being unreasonable about a pan that boiled over?

29 replies

lonelyplanetmum · 26/09/2011 21:43

Just before DH came home from work this evening I was cooking. My youngest DD ( aged 3) called me to her bedroom to help her into a princess dress, wings and shoes etc. While we were wrestling her into the dress a pan of rice boiled over and left an average sized mess of spilt water on the 10 year old cooker.Although it was easy to clean I didn't get around to it as was serving supper, helping older DD with homework and printing off some info I need for work tomorrow! DH came home immediately saw the spilt water on the cooker and exclaimed " JEEZZ! " in an angry exasperated voice. (Also I had been out specially today to get him a special sirloin steak as a treat ). Is DH being unreasonable?!
For supper

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JaneFonda · 26/09/2011 21:45

Err... YABU? Not really sure what the issue is here, to be honest.

Original poster
lonelyplanetmum · 26/09/2011 21:45

Sorry the words " for supper" weren't needed!

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Original poster
lonelyplanetmum · 26/09/2011 21:47

The issue is he was basically complaining at me and was cross because a pan had boiled over and I hadn't cleaned it up immediately !

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AgentZigzag · 26/09/2011 21:47

Had he had a bad day?

If he's like it all the time, he was being unreasonable and petty.

Tell him to clean it up himself if he's that bothered.

I'd leave it for a couple of days to prove the point

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld · 26/09/2011 21:47

Tell him to be glad he doesn't live in my house. The number of pans I used to burn when I cooked savoury rice. That would give him something to complain about.

YANBU

JaneFonda · 26/09/2011 21:48

Did he actually complain though? If he just made a noise, that's not an issue at all.

If I got home and saw stuff spilt then I would probably exclaim something, but this isn't exactly a big deal, is it?

Or you could leave him.

SandStorm · 26/09/2011 21:49

Good job he doesn't live here. I once managed to burn a boiled egg Blush

AgentZigzag · 26/09/2011 21:51

If I got home and saw stuff spilt I'd probably exlaim something too jane, but then I do all the majority of the cleaning.

Unless the OP's going to tell us he does all the housework, he was just being critical and taking whatever's wrong with him out on the OP.

maighdlin · 26/09/2011 21:51

He is being U. Its a small mess of water, not sulphuric acid! Me and DH are mismatched he has to have DD's toys put away immediately i like to leave it to the end of the day, she's just going to get it out again shes 2!! (sorry slight divergence)

squeakytoy · 26/09/2011 21:52

I regularly burn boiled eggs.. I wander off to do something and forget all about them until I hear the eggs rattling away in an empty pan..

ChippingIn · 26/09/2011 22:00

Of course HE IBU

FGS it was a bit of water on the stove...

Is he usually this much of a tit?

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDawn · 26/09/2011 22:03

YABU to have married a man who can say "Jeezz" with a straight face.

eaglewings · 26/09/2011 22:04

Tell him to buy you a microwave rice cooker so it doesn't happen again Wink

niceguy2 · 26/09/2011 22:04

Dump the bastard! Grin

TrillianAstra · 26/09/2011 22:05

YABU to serve sirloin steak with rice.

Kayano · 26/09/2011 22:08

He said jeez...

That was it

This is rediculous

Proudnscary · 26/09/2011 22:11

What's the random 'For supper' about?
And what is an 'average sized' spillage - all spillages are relative you know...
Jeez.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 26/09/2011 22:14

Sandstorm, I once managed to explode two eggs and another time we had to evactuate the house for hours to escape the fumes from the great pork pie versus the plastic plate in the microwave saga Blush

AgentZigzag · 26/09/2011 22:15

Depends on whether there was an eye roll or not Kayano.

Minor, but important Wink

Rice water is a shit to clean if you leave it though, it's all starchy and goes into a raw egg/snot/jizz consistency, which is revolting to clean up.

redwineattheweekend · 26/09/2011 22:18

FFS how daft of him. I come home to bombsite if DH been "working at home", spilt water on cooker i'd be thankful for!!! He is BU

SheCutOffTheirTails · 26/09/2011 22:25

Was he rolling his eyes because you didn't use the absorption method to cook your rice?

My DH would roll his eyes about that. He is almost evangelical about it Hmm

I am very bad at cooking rice well, which makes around half the people (the ones who insist it is easy) quite exasperated.

Original poster
lonelyplanetmum · 26/09/2011 23:03

Thanks to AgentZigzag for the suggestion of leaving the mess for two days to make a point (and thanks for the other comments too)! Just to complete the picture,DH's loud exclamation was indeed accompanied by an eye roll and a sort of dramatic despairing flap of both hands vaguely in the direction of the spillage. Earlier I was feeling like DH's domestic obsessions are like that man in "Sleeping with the enemy"! Now I have got my sense of humour back,and realise that no true cleanliness psychopath would use the expression "Jeez" . ( Finally TrillianAstra the rice was to go with DC's supper and not the steak!)

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scuzy · 26/09/2011 23:15

he is BU

however you are BVU to leave a pan boiling on an unattended stove!!

threeinmybed · 26/09/2011 23:18

He probably just had a bad day OP, I wouldn't take it to heart.

I can over react to stupid things too I've had a rough one. Has he mentioned it since?

blackeyedsusan · 26/09/2011 23:23

rice water is not that hard to wipe off, I have had enough practice! if it doesnt boil over, it drrips. h managed to weld burnt rings of crud to the top of the ceramic hob and years of cleaning have not dislodged it. I might have been cross if dh spilt stuff, but then he didn't do the cleaning.

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