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Original poster

How many of you will admit that like me, you would find this irritating...

26 replies

gigglepin · 25/09/2011 10:30

Went to a pals last night, girly evening, takaway and natter. There were 4 of us there.

Her son..aged 13 completely dominated the 1st hour, by continuously walking in the room, arguing with his mother, shouting to her while she was in the kitchen at the top of his voice while we were talking.
He plonked himself down and just interupted every time some one spoke, he would start to speak to him mum.

Eventually, she asked him to go to his room, this led to another argument.
She just rolled her eyes at us, but actually didnt explain to him how rude he was being.
I KNOW its his home, blah blah blah and that we were guests in HIS home & all that but surely IANBU to be irritated by this. Would you be?

I understand that 13 is a difficult age and all that, but actually this isnt the first time i have been irritated by other folks little darlings interupting, dominating the scene and being a general pain with no recourse from the parent.

OBV wouldnt say anything, but i would not tolerate this from my kid at all.
Oh and there is no background stuff like depression from her or behaviour problems from him, i think that she thinks its ok and that we all adore him and think its sweet.

So, any one brave...or am i gonna get a flaming?

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ENormaSnob · 25/09/2011 10:33

Yanbu

I wouldn't tolerate this from my 11 year old.

shesparkles · 25/09/2011 10:33

I'd find it bloody annoying too-and if he was mine he'd have been well aware of that -and before anyone flames me, I have a 14yr old dd who's pretty well behaved, but my ds who's 9 would have tried that kind of behaviour and would have been removed from the room sharpish. It is NOT endearing!

worraliberty · 25/09/2011 10:33

I don't get how posting what you think on the internet is 'brave'?

So you give an opinion and people don't agree with it...what are they going to do, type you to death? Grin

Anyway, yes it does piss me off when parents allow their kids to keep interrupting when they're talking with adults....though for the first hour I don't see why he shouldn't be allowed to join in as long as he's being pleasant.

Then it's time for him to leave the adults to it imo.

Original poster
gigglepin · 25/09/2011 10:34

heheh, made me giggle that..type me to death Grin

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EsmeWeatherwax · 25/09/2011 10:35

Yeah, yanbu, would drive me nuts too. Not much you can do about it though, unfortunately, other than seethe inwardly!

faverolles · 25/09/2011 10:35

I'd be irritated too, but I don't for one minute imagine he has suddenly turned into a rude bratty 13 yo. I'm sure he was the same aged 5 or 8.
A girly evening is a girly evening. Interruptions by any child would be annoying :o

Original poster
gigglepin · 25/09/2011 10:35

oh and the flamings ive witnessed on here can be...well, vicious

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worraliberty · 25/09/2011 10:36

Don't laugh at me or I may turn my caps lock on Angry

Original poster
gigglepin · 25/09/2011 10:37

HA!....you n me worral...OUTSIDE NOW>>>>

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TrillianAstra · 25/09/2011 10:37

"How many of you will admit" sounds a lot to me like the stupid c&p Facebook statuses that say "how many of you will repost this to show that you are against kicking puppies" or some other nonsense.

It makes me want to disagree with you.

YANBU to find that behaviour irritating.

hocuspontas · 25/09/2011 10:38

My 3 teenagers wouldn't be seen dead anywhere near a group of adults. Only hunger would force them downstairs. Sounds like an attention-seeking sort of child.

worraliberty · 25/09/2011 10:38

I've actually hung up the phone on a friend before because she kept allowing her 5yr old DD to interrupt Blush

She wasn't interrupting in the sense of "Mum, the cat's stuck down the toilet again"

She was actually commenting on our conversation and her Mum was listening to her opinion on it Hmm

aliceliddell · 25/09/2011 10:38

Grin @ 'type you to death'. Yes, kids interrupting is annoying.

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gigglepin · 25/09/2011 10:39

ooh does it? Im not on face book. I should have a look i spose, but it has never interested me. I wonder what every one goes on about as well tbh...will have a look.

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Birdsgottafly · 25/09/2011 10:46

"but I don't for one minute imagine he has suddenly turned into a rude bratty 13 yo. I'm sure he was the same aged 5 or 8".

There was times that i couldn't be around my middle DD at 13 (at 15, she is a walk in the park), to be fair she was going through terrible hormone problems which later turned out to be PCOS, you have to let some of the behaviour go, occassionally.

It may have been either let some of it go, as they were in the middle of a tough time, or cancel.

LittleMissFlustered · 25/09/2011 10:53

I would have gone home, I'd gone to socialise with friends, not their kids.

That's not to say I hate kids. Just that if it were supposed to be an evening of adult company, and I had managed to get a babysitter, I would have expected the other adults to do the same. Kids being twats like this are annoying at any age.

FabbyChic · 25/09/2011 10:59

My children would have been seen and not heard, they would never have been so rude.

TrillianAstra · 25/09/2011 11:00

You don't want to look for that kind of thing, it's one of the less good bits of Facebook. Just reminded me with the "are you brave enough...?"

MurunBuchstansangur · 25/09/2011 11:05

You'd expect me to 'lose' my DCs if I invited you round littlemiss? My friends must be sadly disappointed, as it wouldn't occur to me to do that...

If my DS was 'interrupting' my friends then I'd send him upstairs. If he was 'contributing' to the conversation then I probably wouldn't.

Was he being rude, or was it just that you didn't want to listen to anything he said, as you didn't want him there full stop?

worraliberty · 25/09/2011 11:08

How many people want to hear kids 'contributing' to a conversation when they're trying to have an adult 'girly' night?

Imo, it's fine for say the first hour. They can say hello, make polite conversation etc....but then it's really time to make sure they go to bed or at least find them something to do that doesn't involve 'contributing' to adult conversation.

MurunBuchstansangur · 25/09/2011 11:11

I am not looking forward to the days when bedtime is later than 7.30pm Grin

Proudnscary · 25/09/2011 11:14

You are being unreasonable for the very irritating way you phrased your question - asking who 'will admit' as if we all secretly agree but are too wussy (or something Confused) to say so.

ILoatheMickeyMouseClubhouse · 25/09/2011 11:47

That would annoy me too, OP. Not the child being there but interfering with the conversation and dominating things. I used to know someone who could never, ever have an adult conversation with anyone without one of her kids butting in, and she would never tell them to wait, she'd just abandon the conversation and pander to the children. I stopped meeting with her in the end as there was no point, I'd go round there for coffee and just end up sitting there whilst she did a jigsaw or flash cards with her child, I'd try to talk then she'd start talking then say "Sorry" and start attending to her childrens' needs again. I know sometimes you need to stop what you're doing and do something for your children but I think sometimes children should be told to wait and go and amuse themselves.

youarekidding · 25/09/2011 11:52

YANBU. My DS is 7yo and he isn't allowed to interupt adult time.

If I have friends round he is put to bed at 7pm (usually 7.30/8pm) with a DVD or something and a drink and is told to stay put. I will go and check on him when films due to end and settle him down to sleep but woe betide him if he suddenly decides he's scared of the dark or starving. (yes he's tried it!)

It happens once a month at most and it doesn't harm children to know Mum also has a life. I don't hang out and certainly do not want to! in his room when he has friends over.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 25/09/2011 11:54

YANBU... Adult time is adult time and there's no need for kids to be involved in everything that goes on.