There is a very long back story so i will try to be brief.
Me and DP have had a very strained relationship with his mother since DD was born 19 months ago, part of it has resulted in her not seeing us or DD for just over a year due to her lack of tact and jabs at me & DP, she wants everything her way or no way it all came to a head with her last year and DP told her to stay away from us, she made contact a few times and we also tried to make things better with her so DD could see her Grandma it all failed miserably.
me and DP have had an awful couple of years and in January i had a nervous breakdown as a result of ongoing PND and various other issues, i reached out to MIL and asked her if she could please put all ill feeling aside and be there to support her son, i did this the week before i sectioned myself as i was not coping and felt we needed someone else to help us.
she responded to this request by telling everyone and anyone who would listen that i am an evil person and that she would go through the courts to get our DD to live with her as 'me and DP are not fit parents' (her words). DP had family members who is gets along with quizing him on what was going on and telling him other tales she had told them. This was the final straw as far as me and her were concerned and i will never forgive her for it.
Anyway, around 3 months ago MIL got in touch with DP and asked to come see DD so we said okay lets see what happens, she started coming over once a week and all was going well, then about 2 months ago me and DP hit a rough patch and DP told me he doesn't feel in love with me anymore so we split up and he moved in with a family member whilst we sorted out problems out (going to relate) I stayed in our home with DD, one day out of the blue MIL turned up on the door step when i was home alone, it was odd because she had spoken to DP and he asked her not to come round due to our problems and that i am alone and cant stand her she barged past me at the front door and went into the lounge, she then talked at me for 20 minutes.... telling me how she knew DP would get rid of me eventually and if i did not co-operate with DP seeing DD she would have me 'put away for good' (not sure what this meant, sectioned maybe?) I told her to leave and subsequentley told DP what had gone on. He hit the roof and cut all ties with her and told her to never speak to him again.
Were now back together and happy again, were doing well with relate and both making the changes we need to do in order for our relationship to work properly.
This is what has made me decide DP is better off without his family...
DP's sister is due to get married next year, we had heard about it through other family. DP has always got on with his sister and we have always told her to come over and see DD whenever she likes however since everything has gone on with MIL she has never been or called and never texts us back if we invite her over, she has obviously taken her mums side.
At the weekend we were at DP's aunts (MIL sister) for dinner, she asked us if we have had an invite for the wedding.. nope no invite maybe lost in the post we thought? However upon further investigation, calls to cousins, distant aunts, uncles, other brothers they all have invites but we do not.
DP's cousin took it upon himself to ask DP's sister if she has invited us she replied 'i am not inviting them otherwise mum wont come'
Who the hell doesn't invite their own brother and neice to their wedding?
AIBU to tell DP he doesn't need them and they are just poison?
Sorry its so long didn't want to drip feed! Please ignore any spelling mistakes!