to think that dh would want to go out for the afternoon as a family.

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Dh works long hours during the week so sees little of myself and children during the week. This weekend he is also working today (Other weeks out most of the day for football).
I suggested that tomorrow we go our just for a short trip to a local attraction. He refused.
AIBu to be a little disappointed?

He probably wants some him time, and I can totally understand that, all he wants to do is put his feet up and relax. You should let him.

I work full time. I am going to spend most of tomorrow marking and planning. So today was my one day off this week, and I wanted to spend it with my family, not sat in front of the TV. We went out together. Why is it different for men?

I worked a very stressful job for 13 years whilst my children were 1yr and then five years later 5 weeks old, I worked that job until my eldest was 16 and my youngest 11. Single parent. When it came to the weekend we never went anywhere, we had our time at home. I don't see the relevance of family time having to be going out and doing things. Whats wrong with staying at home and all being together, watching a film, eating a nice roast together.

OP, he should want to spend some time with his family, but recently when I guilt tripped mine into spending time with us (at my DC's request, I might add), he unplugged the modem after our jaunt, 'cause he said once the family thing was over, I wasn't going on the laptop!!!

He hasn't had sex (with me!) since!!

How do your children feel about that fabby?

Depends on the local attraction - I can see if it was noisy, busy, crowded, great for kids but dull for adults etc it would have very little attraction to someone trying to unwind.

Btw I also don't get women whinging about men playing sport, it keeps them in shape and healthy!

Full blown GP fan you don't stand a chance. I wasn't allowed to speak during GPs, F1 mad parents.
If it's an excuse and the attraction isn't too dire he comes. My DH grumps, but generally accepts that spending time with the family is part of the deal.

If he instists on his one day of football everyweek OP I would insist of one day for you doing what you want to do. Does that ever happen?

Agreed Fabby, why does family time have to mean going out and doing stuff?

Today for example is the only day both my DH and I are off, we are having a lovely lazy day at home with DS. I'm pretty sure he's having a better time goofing off at home with us than if we were trying to drag our tired butts around town.

DS gets out plenty during the week...I think it's good for kids to have a day to unwind at home too.

But that's assuming the OP's DH is happy to hang out with the family at home -- if he's not, then there's definitely a problem here.

Yanbu. Aren't all parents tired? a few hours family time is not a lot to ask.

Of course family time can be at home, but it's nice to go out sometimes too. If it were my kids seeing their dad go out one day every weekend to go to football they would be saying to me "Can we go too? Why can't we go? Why doesn't daddy take us out?"

It's really not that much to ask of him, and if he's tied because he is out every weekend then he needs to rethink that.

tired!

I know the feeling. My dh is working today as a one off. He also works Mon-fFiday. We went out for the day yesterday and he couldn't wait to get home. Wanted to watch qualifying for gp. Also does the football thing most weekends. (watching not playing.)
Maybe it wolud have been better to save the day out for another weekend op. I certainly wish I had.

Whats wrong with 'family time' in the home?

Or does it only count if its a public display of 'familiness'?

Family time in the home is good too. However, generally I find when we are home there is always something else that needs doing.