To think DH was a bit hard on DD?

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Argos · 24/09/2011 14:12

Ok want some perspective on this. DD is 6 and DS 3. DD has been to loads of birthday parties due to her age but we underplay it on the day to DS as he would want to go too. DS has been invited to his first birthday party which is in the park today. DH told DD she could go to the park to play on the equipment but not the actual party as it for for little ones and she hadn't been invited. He then changed his mind as asked me to take her somewhere nice.

She got really miserable because she wasn't allowed to go to park/party and DH got cross saying she would just have to deal with it, she is 6 now and it's DS's turn to start going to parties. She started crying. I'm and think DH could have handled it better, aibu?

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Argos · 24/09/2011 14:20

Anyone?

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aldiwhore · 24/09/2011 14:22

He was a little harsh, but they DO have to learn that not all parties are for them, and 6 is about the age when they learn it.

Your DH shouldn't have changed his mind, he's broken a promise and that is unfair, however, he did try and rectify it by asking you to take her somewhere nice, so take her somewhere nice!

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Argos · 24/09/2011 14:23

I have offered but she is in floods, I'm starting to think she is behaving a bit spoilt...

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ChippingIn · 24/09/2011 14:23

Agree with Aldi :)

RhinestoneCowgirl · 24/09/2011 14:25

Erm, he's probably feeling a bit guilty because he initially said she could go then changed his mind, meaning that he felt cross with himself.

If that is the case then YANBU as he shouldn't really have taken it out on DD.

ChippingIn · 24/09/2011 14:25

Oh and I was going to add - but 'doing something special' when the other one is invited to a party is not a good idea. You just have to remind her that she has been to plenty of parties and they will both get invites that are only for themselves.

I don't know if she's behaving a bit spoilt or not (I'm not there) but given that it's the first time it's not her going to the party and your DH told her she could go to the park with them, I'm not surprised she's crying tbh.

worraliberty · 24/09/2011 14:27

She's going to have to get used to not being invited to her sibling's parties but your DH was wrong to offer to take her to the park and then refuse.

Perhaps she would have took it on the chin if it wasn't for that?

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