To think it's not my job to check DH's pockets before washing his clothes?

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We have 3 DC's so do an awful lot of laundry. Twice in the last month DH's phones have gone through the washing machine. AIBU to think it's not my responsibility to check through the pockets of things he's dumped in teh laundry basket?

Although reading these replies maybe our problem is that we don't have a nice, efficient "washing basket" system, clothes seem to get left in random piles all over the house and whoever is tidying up a room just performs the sniff/check for stains/is this too crumpled to bother with test and then puts it in either the dirty washing mountain pile or in a washing basket designated to "clean enough" clothes.

I check all pockets and any cash found is mine!! My DH and teenage DDs have been warned!! The odd crumpled £10 note comes in very handy.......

YANBU He's an adult he can check his own clothes before putting them in the wash. I don't check but I only do my own washing so I've only myself to blame if I did wash something. I'm usually pretty good at checking pockets before putting stuff in the wash basket.

I don´t check.

If it´s in the washbox I assume it´s fit to go straight into the machine.

"YANBU - DH's should check their own pockets - this is a classic example of 'wifework' isn't it. "

Aha! I think I have the divide those who think the husbands should check their own pockets are the ones who always get lumbered with all the washing!

In this house, either of us puts a load on and whoever does it, does a final check, so there isn't that 'wifework'. Washing everyone's clothes ain't MY job. It's OUR job. So checking pockets when you do do it isn't a big deal.

DazR, same here, all cash is mine.... or whoever does the washing and finds it.

YANBU - I never remember to check. Not good as I am forever leaving things in my pockets, particularly bits of tissue

DH OTOH does empty pockets before washing things, BUT he is a shocker for putting part worn trousers away with my keys things in the pockets that we then have to ransack the house for, so I reckon we run about even.

I always check because of tissues. Which are always in the darks load. Why?!

I try and remember to check, and DH tries to remember to check

Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. Tissues (usually from my pockets) in a darks wash is the worst.

YANBU
Stuff in pockets, clothes inside out, tissues, DSD wears his sleeves tightly rolled up and NEVER unrolls them - all v grrrr as it is usally me who does the laundry.
However, I do have a quick check (mostly to prevent the washing machine from being damaged) and my bonus for this task is to keep any loose change I find! I either pocket it, put it in DD's saving tin, or if it's the older kids money I will return it to them or put in their dinner money jar.

Good point OpenMouth

Actually I do do all the washing, but DP does all the washing up. If he was doing washing I'd expect him to check pockets.

I never check. However the clothes go into the basket that's how they get put into the machine. Far too many clothes to go through each and every pocket.

Well washing a grown man's clothes presumably isn't your job either (apologies if you are, in fact, a professional charwoman).

If you are kind enough to wash his clothes, and he has been careless enough to leave things in the pockets, them he has no cause to complain because:
a) you were doing him a favour
b) he should have emptied his own pockets

Washing clothes is husbandwork in this house.

He always checks because I stash tissues everywhere - in pockets, up sleeves, under pillows in case of a sudden snot downpour.

I wouldn't check them either - if they jangled as I put them in, I wouldn't ignore it though

my rule is if its in the basket I wash it in the state it goes in the basket, so if its inside out thats how it stays! if its on the floor, it stays there. so everyones responsibility too empty pockets including me as its often my tissue that messes up the wash

Only clothes in the washing basket get washed. The person who puts the clothes in the washing basket is responsible for checking the pockets. Simple. And it works for everyone.

I do all the washing in our house (he does mostly everything else :o) and had the exact same problem - never phones though, just endless tissues which got all over my clothes if I didn't go through all the pockets.

I solved it by telling him that I was no longer checking, and would divide the washes between mine and his clothes. If his clothes got covered with tissue then so be it, but mine wouldn't. For a few washes his clothes got covered in bits of tissue.

It worked and now I wash all our stuff together in one happy union of tissuelessness.

Oh FFS. I don't check the shirt pockets. DD's lunch card has gone through the machine. I hope it still works....

I check - but only because I don't want to ruin my washing machine.