to expect my DH to know the names of the childrens teachers?

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Our DS2 has just started school - cue the 3 week lead in of mornings/mornings & lunch etc that has been a logistical feat even though I only work 3 days a week.

I had asked DH to ring his mum to see if she could help and pick up DS2 at lunchtime and DS1 normal time. He didn't know either of the childrens teachers names! I was shocked..........surprised..........and upset - he thinks it's no big deal, but I honestly thought as it has been big news in our home , our youngest starting school, having a home visit from the teacher etc. not to mention our DS1 going up into year 2 & being nervous about being split up from his friends (they changed all the classes to mix up the Jan intakes) I really thought that DH would know this basic information about our childrens lives.

Do your DH/DP know your childrens teachers name?

It took me about 6 months to learn the names of DD's teachers/TA's last year, there were 4 of them though, it was nursery/reception. I work, DH is SAHD, I did the school run once or twice a week but never really got to speak to the teachers much... unless she bumped her head, cut her knee etc.

But DH used to get them mixed up too... and DD still can't quite say the name of one of them. Basically we're all a bit rubbish with names. :)

I'm better this year though... I know them all.... DD is in reception now so it's exactly the same teachers as last year, but with one new recruit. :o

Nope, I don't think my DH would know their teachers' names. But he is never around at pick-up time, so he doesn't really have a need to.

He knows that they are happy in school, listens to them read, shares with homework support and always asks intelligent questions about how their day has gone. He also knows where their classrooms are, so that if he did have to pick them up he could. Isn't that enough?

I would have sworn blind that my Dh would not have been able to say our DCs teachers' names, but I am rather impressed that he got most of them correct! (There are 5 teachers / TAs between the two children so a lot of names to remember!).

My DH wouldn't have a clue with our three - two primary, one High School. I deal with school stuff (and my kids all get the school bus anyway so there is no daily drop off and pick up) and tell him if his presence is required. DH is totally interested in our kids and their lives and is often more involved than I am in out of school stuff like sport, but as long as they are happy at school and have no problems he really doesn't need to know the detail.

It isn't really important tbh.

As long as you know them. My Oh might have a rough idea, but would probably not allocate correct teacher to child!
I deal with most of school stuff.

Meh

My dh is SAHD and he wouldn't have a clue about teacher's names or kids' or parents' names!

Even when arranging a play date everything goes through me.

He's committed to them and their education, who cares if he remembers names?

My ex would struggle to know which school. If that's the worst he does then you should be grateful.

My dh does know, mainly because my two dc talk about them a lot (yrs 3 ans 5 at school). TBH though I could count on one hand the number of times dh does school runs, as he is at work full time and I am part time. He also never attend plays/concerts etc, as he works 45 mins away from school and tbh just isn't 'that' interested in a bunch of seven year old trying to sing/play recorder............ can't say I blame him on that score as sometimes these things are well...... hard going.

So I think your dh is quite normal really!

Ds only started reception less than 2 weeks ago and I'm still struggling with the teachers names!

Dh would probably be able to name his main teacher but not the TA's or the head - although he has asked and is trying. Dh works an hour away from home though and will very rarely do the school run and will probably end up missing most of the harvest festivals/christmas concert type things too but he was very involved with choosing Ds's school and would do anything he could at home to help. He's not disinterested or a bad father he just trusts me to look after that part of our lives while he goes out and earns the money.

I had to ring school last week as dd2 was sick. When asked for her teacher's name, my response was 'Ummmm, she's in year 10'

To be fair though, between the 2 of them they've got about 30 teachers, they're consecutive years at school and have been known to have the same teacher for different subjects!

My DP knows the teachers names but I don't know if this is due to his keen interest in DS's school life or more to do with the fact that DS has named various Teddies after his teachers and makes us tuck them in at night

he knows her nursery teachers name as we see her all the time at school and whilst shopping, he knew p1 because it was a funny name and if he didnt know p2s name i'd be shocked - she has my exact name!

haven't got to this stage yet but wouldnt surprise me if DP has no idea when we come to it. He is a great dad but all the organising of stuff is left to me, sorting out groups, activities, pre-school etc. Up to a point it makes sense for the parent who is more at home to do it but it would be nice if he showed a bit more initiative. I now when it comes to applying for schools he will assume I have done any research and sorted it all. YANBU but I fear its mostly par for the course

yabu it literally doesn't matter at all

DH does not know the names of the DC's teachers. (I remind him before parents' evenings). I am normally the person that deals with school stuff so I don't expect him to. I equally have no idea of his manager's name (because it's not necessary for me to know it). Doesn't mean he is not interested in the DC or their education.

Some people just aren't very good with names. Don't see why it matters really .