AIBU to stop contact until ex agree's with whats best for ds

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Exp's best friend has a son 1 year older than ds who is just the most awful child I have ever encountered. He is nasty, naughty cheeky and bullys my ds everytime he see's him. He is 7 years old and has been excluded from his 1st primary school already!

I have spoen to exp about this many times, and he insists that if the other boy is naughty and/or bullys ds he is disciplined.

Last night ds came home with yet another huge bruise to the shin and a story of how the other boy had kicked him hard for not wanting to run in the field.

Rang exp after ds went to bed and he said I am being petty, ds needs to toughen up and that as far as he knew there had been no bullying

My dp is furious - he is basically bringing ds up as exp only sees him once a week and dp is currently a sahd to the 3 kids we have between us. He says I should stop contact until exp realises he needs to do what is best for ds, and not what suits him (ie seeing his best mate at the weekends)

I feel IWBU to stop contact, but IWBU to also allow ds to get bullied weekend after weekend

Forgetting OPs rights and 'eegits' rights, what about DSs rights not to be forced into a situation every weekend where he is bullied. He clearly isn't happy and as springykinickers says bullying can be very damaging.

What about if you speak to your ex and explain that your ds is starting to not want to see him because of this and suggest that for a while he comes over on Saturday morning, takes ds out for a few hours and brings him back. If he's close enough he could maybe do this on Sunday as well. If your ex points out how inconvenient it is you can firmly but politely point out that the inconvenience is being cause by your ds being upset and not you.

Don't mention what your dp thinks, that would probably be a red rag to a bull and in all fairness (and I mean this in the nicest possible way) it's none of his business!