To think that this is Not On?

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SiL phoned DH at midnight last night in tears telling him he needed to take her to hospital. DH obviously jumped out of bed and drove round there, only to find that she was absolutely fine but had said she needed to go to hospital so that they could have a chat after she had had a row with her dad (who she still lives with). DH didn't too much sympathy for her! AIBU to be really cross that she woke us up and told such a whopping lie just to get attention? We were both really worried about what had happened to her; she gave no details on the phone.

The scary thing is that she's in her last year of teacher training.

She's irresponsible & stupid.

Irresponsible and immature. I wouldn't trust her with my DC if I were you.

I was wondering if she has some kind of mental issues really.

That's a very strange lie to tell, and a mad thing to do at that time of night.

My PIL's rang us once, MIL in a terrible panic, to say that FIL was very ill and needed to go to hospital. They are both diabetic and she was saying FIL couldn't walk unaided and kept passing out. She kept ranting about diabetic coma's and saying that they couldn't get an ambulance to come out. This was about 6:30am and DH shot out of bed and round to their house to drive them.

As they got to the hospital, SIL was arriving from work to meet them as they had called her too. FIL was taken to be examined while DH and SIL contacted their other two brothers and MIL's brother and sister in law to let them know what was going on.

FIL had a diarrhoea and sickness bug and the doctor was not happy with him for going to A&E because of it.

Later on MIL confessed to SIL that she had thought she wouldn't get to see us that weekend and had been hoping we would all come to the hospital (so me waking LO and dragging him off to A&E) if we thought FIL was seriously ill and she was very upset that we didn't fall for her manipulative game care enough to go.

Your SIL sounds the same. She knew she was in the wrong but she created a drama to get what she wanted from your DH and is now in some kind of sulky strop because he didn't give into her once he found out what she was playing at.

YANBU.

she has ishoos big serious ones and I would not like to hand over my prescious dc for her look after.
Unstable people make life difficult but your dh and parents must tell her how unnaceptable her behaviour was and how worried they are about her mental health and does she need her tutors help ??

takethisone That is unbelieveable!

Today has ended up as a compromise. FiL called DH twice this morning to complain how difficult 'all his children' are being at the moment, DH went over to see SiL but she was still in bed at noon so he is staying with her while she looks after DS. I'm not particularly happy about it as he is supposed to be at home making sure I don't fall over after my op but I'd much rather he was there than SiL have DS by herself. Next time I see her she will get a piece of my mind.

. i dont get this .

SIL asked your dh to take her to hospital , because she had a row with your FIL ?

I dont think you know the full story here .

Not only is it odd , but the fact your dh has taken your ds to sil and is going to stay with him whilst she babysits is very very bizare .

Something has occured that you dont know ...id put money on it.

Has the FIL hit the SIL during thier row ?

I also think it odd that husband is there today.

I´d still be too pissed off to bother with her.

Let alone let her have the pleasure of DS-although I can see it might be difficult for OP to have him.

It sounds as if there could be more, but then why not tell OPs husband last night rather than him coming straight home?

The FIL`S phonecall is a bit ."difficult children "? That is adult ofspring hes talking about .

Hes done something ...i think sil & dh are trying to keep it underwraps as op is just out of hospital and they dont want her more distressed.

I don't think anything other than what I know about has happened. FiL is very odd but has never smacked or otherwise hit his 6 children, ever, that I know of. He does tend to get paranoid and think that the world is against him, hence the silly phone calls, but he will get over that. DH's whole immediate family are a bunch of drama queens on most occasions and are very into making everything political so I'm not surprised DH went over there today to calm the waters a bit. His compromise of staying with SiL was so that we didn't create another drama by saying she couldn't have DS while also making sure that we knew she wouldn't be uncontactable while looking after him.

If you needed SiL to look after your DS, it was a bit pointless your DH being there too wasn't it?

Just what I was thinking Nanny! If SIL was needed to babysit, but DH is there with her, why didn't DH stay at home with you to lok after you and DS