To be gutted he lied?

[BeBrutal]

I'm a regular lurker and would really appreciate some perspective.

Basically, I recently started dating a guy I new many years ago and we got back in touch through facebook.

On one of the first dates, he dropped in to the conversation thay he didn't do the whole 'one night stand' malarkey and had only slept with 7 women. I have been single for almost 3 years so have done the one night stand thing and was quite upfront about it. (figured no point in lying and am I now at a place where I'm looking for more than that) To be honest though, I was quite impressed that he was a 'nice' guy IYSWIM.

Anyway, many dates on and he drops in to a rather drunken conversation that he has slept with loads more people than he first claimed. I feel really annoyed that he lied, like he wanted me to believe he was someone different than who he really is.

I have real trust issues anyway (ExH was a compulsive liar so I may be OTT wary) It just feels like we started on the wrong foot and I feel weird about it all now.

Am I being weird? Be harsh if need be.... Maybe I'm just not cut out for this relationship stuff.

I get annoyed with this too, when people tell you what they think you want to hear, but later on become their real self, which might be not quite what you were after. If this is the only thing, maybe give him a chance, if you enjoy his company

I think it depends on his motivation. Is he trying to manipulate you or just exagerating the truth iyswim?

Personally I wouldn't be happy but on it's own is not a huge deal.

I'd tell him it's made you uncomfortable and ask him about it. You have nothing to lose, really.

People may well lie to impress. Under the approx age of 21.

If he was embarassed because it was a high or low number of previous partners he could just have said, not prepared to discuss, in the past etc.

It is hardly relevant, age, marriage, personal situations can have lots of influence on that silly childish idea of a "number".

My H knows and I know his but I told him voluntarily. Had he asked, I would have said it was not his business, it was before he was on the scene and as such nothing to do with him. Same as his previous partners are nothing to do with me unless he chooses to disclose the information.

Any bloke that drops in the 'I dont do the one night stand thing, Ive only slept with blah blah blah' on your first date to give you the 'I'm a nice guy' crap is the one you should run away from.