To be seriously annoyed with DSis sending 'all her love'

[SarahStratton]

To the miners' families, on Facebook?

I can't decide. Half of me thinks, well it is an absolutely appalling tragedy, and I do feel for their families and friends.

But, the small, quieter, nasty side of me is thinking, fucksake you don't know these people, it's insulting and attention seeking.

AIBU or not?

I could be...

No, DSis doesn't have children. I'd love Reality to be my DSis, it would be sooooooooo much fun.

Oh and a big family Christmas dinner with me and Reality would be chaos. Seriously, chaos. Stuff happens when I'm around.

Ooh Reality I was just thinking about you when lo and behold you're on here!

Umm, I disagree about grief tourism. I think it's a tacky phrase. Since time began communities have shared highs and lows, down the pub, over the garden fence, in the playground, whatever. Nowadays, it's shared online. It's just the modern way. IMO it doesn't make it cynical or attention seeking.

laluna - you are obviously determined that "we are a cynical lot" - does that make you feel better about anything? You're not reading the thread properly. The argument is not against the emotion - which is admirable - but about the manner of expressing it.

How many of you were slating other posters on here a while back for giving out about the Amy Winehouse fuss? That was ridiculous but people had to visibly mourn or they were hard as nails. This is a genuine tragedy but people are drama queens if they comment on it? Make your minds up.

Some of you are as cold as a freezer but I don't put you down because of it. It's not grief tourism, it's not being an over-emoter or attention seeking.

Those people are going through hell and for some people knowing that there are people out there thinking about them is comforting. So fuck right off with your nasty comments.

I've posted similar on FB today too. And tbh i don't really give a flying fuck what people think.

Four good men are dead tonight. Four men who will never go home to their families again. And a fifth is lying close to death in a hospital bed. Yes, my thoughts are with them and my heart goes out to them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying that either. The grief around this area is palpable - from all those directly and indirectly affected. It is a sad sad day here in South Wales.

Oh, I have no argument with the emotion whatsoever, it's the attention seeking that's annoying me.

Just to clarify:

We have no connections with Wales, never even been there.

Neither do we know any miners, or their families.
It's on her status, not one of those c&p'd statuses, just her status.
She's lovely, and I adore her, but she is a total attention whore.

I am taking all comments on board though. And am wondering if I have been rather harsh judging her.

FB is the way some people communicate ... because of it some FBers really feel connected to the world ... they think that everyone else is the same

It is not worth being annoyed about

No, you're right. It's her prerogative to post what she likes, and just because it's not something I would do, doesn't mean she can't. Just as I wouldn't expect her to judge me as being unfeeling because I haven't put anything and have hidden her post .

And I know I'm intolerant, and judge too quickly.

Yours or mine this year then?

And do you want to do the turkey or all the fucking veg?

Friday night is intolerant night anyway! Ask me again tomorrow .

Stratton fucks veg?

I'm greeeaaatttt Reality, like Tony the Tiger only female and red-headed. Still no baby? I missed your sweepstake

Only marrows :)

It's just the balance to the posters on here who think nobody gives a rats arse about anyone outside their local area.

It's OK to feel compassion for people you don't know, although you seem to think your sister is doing it to draw attention to herself.

It's nice for the families to not feel invisible to the world.

marrows My Pop used to grow marrows

It's just that Facebook seems far more less reverend than say a book of condolence. Why do I think a book of condolence is appropriate and Facebook is not? Perhaps I just need to get with it.

OP, how does this actually affect you?? Why does it bother you?? She just wants to show that she feels some compassion towards their situation. Stop getting your knickers in a twist and worry about something that actually matters.