To get the kids to contribute towards their own take-aways?

[FluffyGreenMould79]

The kids have been nagging for a takeaway for ages now. I did say I'd consider it for this week but a take-away for the 3 of us will cost around £10 (I only get noodles and curry for the chinese for £3!).

AIBU to say they can have a take-away tonight if they contribute towards it with their own pocket money? I don't usually make them pay for their own food obviously but this is a luxury that THEY want.

AIBU?

[olibeansmummy]

Lol at children should have takeaway once a week! Madness!

If you really can't afford it then fair enough, but I'm 25 and my parents still pay for takeaways when we have them at their house!

[Folu]

LOL!!!
Why do ppl get their knickers in a twist over such trivial issues, she's only asking your opinion.

I say get them to do a few chores around the house in return for the takeaway.
This will teach them about responsibilites ...he he he

[Crosshair]

''If you really can't afford it then fair enough, but I'm 25 and my parents still pay for takeaways when we have them at their house!''

Stop being tight. :o

[olibeansmummy]

Lol I'm not tight they insist :)

[TotemPole]

zukiecat, how many chips did you get for the 60p? Can't have been that many, one portion between 6 of you.

[confusedandsilly]

I love take aways, in our house they are a massive treat but we only have them once every couple of months in warm days. Now with the colder days coming, we'll have indian or thai or pizza once a month but I wouldnt be happy to have it every week, it wouldnt be a treat anymore and anyway I love cooking !

[picnicbasketcase]

I agree with tyler as well - If they want a takeaway, they should be willing to contribute a little bit towards it. If you paid them pay for the whole lot it would be unreasonable, but putting a bit towards it is fine IMO.

[Bellavita]

Yabu.

A takeaway is a treat for everyone, and everyone should be able to chose what they like. If you cannot afford it then don't have one.

If they don't like what is on offer normally, tough! They are old enough to live with that.

[GandTiceandaslice]

YABU. Treat them!

[pilates]

YABU at there ages.

[notcitrus]

My parents and my friend's parents I stayed with a lot did this - they'd agree to chip in £3-4 for the takeaway, and we would cook our own rice or noodles to go with it, or could have paid for special fried rice or whatever.
Perfectly reasonable, I think.

Apart from anything else it must have saved me a fortune over the next 20 years, not to mention the reduced fat content!

[tamitots]

I think the "rules according to Fabby" would be a great read. I think everyone deserves a treat every now and then.

[LaLaLaLayla]

Yes, YABU. Treats are what make life worthwhile. If you genuinely can't afford it, then don't buy it. But if you are just being tight, then I think it's a bit mean to expect the kids to chip in.

[fatlazymummy]

My kids must be deprived as well. They very rarely have a take away and if they do it's not bought by me. I can count the number of take aways I have eaten in my whole life on the fingers of one hand [maybe both]. They are a total waste of money IMO. We do eat out now and again and I pay for that. I think Fabbychic has got a point that it is also freedom from having to cook and wash up, so it is worth paying for it in that respect.

[SuePurblybilt]

I don't think DD has ever had a proper take away. Poor deprived child.

FWIW boo, I'm with you on the pocket money thing. I have a similar system with DD and believe it helps her to understand basic budgeting (very basic, obviously), the beginnings of a work ethic and gives her a sense of being able to control something and make her own choices. Works for us