To get the kids to contribute towards their own take-aways?

[FluffyGreenMould79]

The kids have been nagging for a takeaway for ages now. I did say I'd consider it for this week but a take-away for the 3 of us will cost around £10 (I only get noodles and curry for the chinese for £3!).

AIBU to say they can have a take-away tonight if they contribute towards it with their own pocket money? I don't usually make them pay for their own food obviously but this is a luxury that THEY want.

AIBU?

[FluffyGreenMould79]

If I was a millionaire we wouldn't be getting a take-away every week. Slight health issue there!?

[Icelollycraving]

Yabu. It's a treat,if they really want it & you want them to earn a treat,maybe suggest some chores then reward them.

[TrillianAstra]

Don't be so bloody tight, they should have a takeaway once a week

Oh you are bonkers Fabby.

[FabbyChic]

When we were kids we always had a takeaway every Friday so that my Mum did not have to cook.

Every week without fail, we were never asked to contribute.

The OP says there is more than enough food and a choice of food, well stop spending so much on choices and buy your kids a takeaway, it's a treat, all kids deserve one.

Besides they might be sick of your cooking.

[gramercy]

Why not get a supermarket takeaway - they are much cheaper than from real takeaways and most probably less likely to cause food poisoning! I got a Sainsbury's one, serves 2, last week for me and two dcs and it was ample.

[TrillianAstra]

Could you afford it if they had the cheap option like you do?

If so then say "you can have noodles, which is what I have, but if you want something more expensive it'll come out of your pocket money". That's no different to them spending pocket money on sweets.

[TrillianAstra]

"My mum always did this" is not a sufficient reason for any argument.

[booyhoo]

your logic is seriously warped fabby. you were lucky/unhealthy enough to get takeawayweekly so every child should eat take away weekly? hardly the most rational argument for OP's dilema.

secondly, OP shouldstop buying healthy,cheaper food so that her children can eatmore expensive, unhealthy food once a week? really? want to think that one through again?

i would love to read your 'rules for life according to fabby'

[richpersoninapoorpersonsbody]

I am in shock that Fabby is suggesting that children should have the right to a take away once a week, and then to add don't spend so much on your food shopping to afford it!! I can't afford take aways and were not missing out it's no ones right to have one but if your dc are desperate for one and offer to pay then it's their money so don't stop them.'

[nametapes]

YANBU

[Hullygully]

I have been known to make ds (14) pay for his own Chinese delivery when we are all having something cooked (that he could have had too)

[FluffyGreenMould79]

Fabby must be on a wind-up, nobody could be that daft. I appreciate some might think I'm unreasonable to ask the kids to contribute but to suggest all kids are entitled to a weekly take-away and grocery bill should be cut in order to accommodate it is just too stupid to argue with really.

Anyway, thanks for the sensible opinions!

[Hullygully]

yy Maryz

Amazing what they can suddenly do without if it's their money..

[Crosshair]

Do what you want, your kids ect. I dont think its the end of the world letting them buy their own treats from time to time.

[Ifancyashandy]

Fabby, you are bonkers.

Kids 'deserve' a take away once a week?!

Words fail.

[catgirl1976]

A takeaway once a week is a bit unhealthy no? We used to go for a meal out once a week as children and DH and I go out to eat once a week. We get more takeaways than we should but would hope to be a little more "responsible" when DS arrives and feed him more healthily than we do ourselves so I would consider a takeaway once a week to be too much.

If the OP can't afford the takeaway then it is her call I guess whether to say "no - we can't afford it" or "I can't afford it but you may contribute if it is something you really want to spend your money on".

I think they are too young to be contributing to food, but like the OP says if she says no and they then want to use their pocket money to pay for it there is little come back.

[ApocalypseCheeseToastie]

I don't see the problem tbh.

And fabby you have strange ideas about kids and money. One of yours has gone into banking hasn't he ? Hopefully he has a much more sensible attitude !

[sistersootica]

YANBU. If you can't afford it, they can chip in a bit too. It doesn't hurt if children know the realistic limits of your finances.

[booyhoo]

ae you serious? it's £1 for a DVD of his choosing that he wants to watch otherwise it is a DVD from home of his choosing that he wants to watch. why shouldn't he pay for things he wants? he gets a weekly magazine bought with the food shopping,he gets a weekly pick of sweets bought, he gets weekly trips and outings, he gets the sweets and toys bought weekly from his grandparents and outings with the aswell. i think teaching him that money is not in endless supply for his wants and desires is a good thing and i dont think 6 is too young for him to learn. it is £1. and it is his money that he has earnt,sometimes he buys himself extra sweets or a toy and sometimes he saves it for his dvd. it's his choice.

[AbbyAbsinthe]

But treats are just that, aren't they? Isn't that the whole point? I certainly don't agree with a takeaway once a week , but wouldn't dream of charging my dc for stuff like this out of their pocket money!

[Crosshair]

Whats pocket money actually for if not for treats?

[Hullygully]

depends if yo see it as a treat or not, dunnit?