to not want a haircut?

[TheRhubarb]

Hairdressers are scary.
I need a haircut and am booked in for 2pm today for a dry cut, but even this is now worrying me and I've almost cancelled twice.

Trouble is that they never really listen to what I tell them and end up doing what they want to do, which is to make me look like a complete idiot so that when I come out I have to find the nearest puddle and swish my hair about in that.

I have curly hair and when cut it tends to go straight at the top of my head but then puff out at the bottom like a really bad 80's style and this is the style most hairdressers will do, despite me asking them not to.

Also they look scary. Most of them are very very young, plastered in make-up with bright yellow hair, jangly bracelets and overpowering perfume.

And they expect me to TALK to them!

I hate everything about it and usually get someone to come to the house but she's not answering her phone (probably because she knows it's me) or I cut it myself, but this time it needs a proper cut and I'm bricking it.

Tell me I don't have to go - I don't wanna!

Aha! Crystal Tips! That's who I look like when they comb it out - bloody Crystal Tips!
I was trying to remember her name.

op you sound like you have the perfect hair for DIY

Check out you tube ...with hair like yours (and mine) it is very difficult to louse it up!

Glad it went well :)

Well done Rhubarb0 - and thanks for starting this thread.
Its been over 12 months since I've braved a hairdresser & even that was only because of needing to attend a funeral...

Problem is more due to anxiety (boring medical reasons) than hatred of hairdressers, who, I realise, are only doing their jobs [embarassed].
Think I'll be checking out Feminine's YouTube tip - thanks for that! :)

[embarassed] was meant to be

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I used to hate going and didn't actually go to a proper hairdresser until I was 30. I'm so glad I started as I have decent hair and it's not in a bad condition anymore from lack of cuts. It is fairly expensive so I suppose it should be decent

I found a hairdresser who has curly hair herself a revelation!!

I use to hate it. My hair is very thick and I have found very very few people who cut it properly.

I think you need to do a lot of research . Either look for a hairdresser who has hair like yours, or look out for people with hair like yours and ask them who cuts it.

I have done this before, and it worked.

I haaate hairdressers. So I haven't been to one for two years. Last few times before that I went to the same one even though they got it wrong (all wonky) each time, just because it was better to go to that one quickly and tie it up until it grew out properly.
Now it's getting a bit too long, v. ratty, about four inches past my shoulders and at Christmas it was about an inch past. I've hacked at it a few times but it's still falling out a bit so you can really see it looks awful...oh well!

Don't go! DIY!

i am super fussy and never go to big chain places - i usually end up in smaller more bo-ho places.. my current hair dresser has curly/wavy hair and wears it all messy - and she's NEVER tried to straighten mine - i love her

Well done OP for facing your fear. I reckon it takes a week for hair to settle down after a cut, so I never go immediately before any kind of important occasion and I always wash it the following morning. I have colour every four weeks but don't let him cut it every time and that seems to work (another one with thick wavy hair).

I don't know anyone who has hair like mine and those I ask always pay far more than I would for a cut. I'm such a tight-arse!

However it was quick and ok, I'll just have to remember to pack the serum when I go next (if I go there again).

Glad to have found fellow hairdresser haters, everyone else I tell about my fear of hairdressers thinks I'm barmy.

I have a fear of hairdressers too! And everyone I know thinks I'm mental! I really hate people touching my hair at all. (Which I think stems from childhood & my mum having to scrape it back for ballet!!)

I hate going to hairdressers, I hate the smell, the inane chat, the way that I feel like I am being judged the second I walk through the door. I had to brave it 3 months ago for a wedding, and I know it needs a trim I just can't bring myself to ring up & book it!!

Nice to know I'm not the only weirdo person out there who hates going!! Well done for being brave! I'd be tempted to learn to cut it myself if my hair was super curly like yours! Don't think I could get away with it!

I cannot STAND going to the hairdressers, only managed it this year after avoiding it since 2008.

I manage to give the air of 'you fuck up, I will crush you' and they don't tend to engage with me, which thrills me no end.

Glad it went ok

Well I have a wedding to go to. I am broke (nearly), my hair was a mess, so I grudgingly booked in. Thought I had a junior stylist (£23), got director instead (£40). Hair still looks a mess

thought I had booked

Another going to the hairdresser hater here.
I would rather go to the dentist to be perfectly honest!
Mine stems from the fact that for years not one hairdresser ever listened to me and I had at least a decade of disastrous haircuts.

My hair has a mind of its own. I can only blow dry one side, because I am hopelessly useless and I suffer from CBA syndrome when it comes to faffage.
About 12 years ago I found a superb hairdresser. He listened to me, never tried to do anything with my hair other than trim off the bare minimum and blow dry it beautifully sleek. he did my hair for my wedding and it was just right. I followed him to several locations (he owned his own business and changed locations). I was willing to pay extra to get him although he was training his staff to deal with long hair like mine. Sadly he no longer works at the weekend, he only works monday and tuesday, and I work then too! In the hols I have the kids. I just can't contemplate going to anyone else so I haven't had my hair cut for about 18 months. I do trim my fringe and I am trying to gear up to trimming the ends myself.
I have bum length hair and mostly wear it up at work ( teacher, avoiding nits!) and 'half up/half down' at the weekends.
Off to google the ponytail cut!