miss sexy trousers - school are not allowing them but its the first i have heard about it and its only september!!

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dd normally has trousers from new look but they tend to go bobbly.
so she said her friends were all wearing miss Sexy trousers. they were quite cheap.
the school allows bootleg but not lycra or denim, usual story i imagine.
i read in the newspaper at the beginning of the month about a school that had banned miss Sexy trousers and now DD and others are being hauled out of the classroom and told to buy new trousers.

i have said not until october half term.
she has only had them since June or so
AIBU

Showy just ignore the school. There's a difference between a muffin and a cake fgs.

You need to go in and Have A Word (once you have got the energy/feel like it)

they are being completely unreasonable

gloria, while I completely agree with you, it's her dd who would get that arsey comments/attitude for taking the "wrong" things for lunch. Thats why I suggested making the same thing, but in a different guise, so it doesnt look like a cake. :)

I started secondary school in 2000 and I had a pair of trousers like that every year. The bottoms got ripped to shreds, the elastic bits started sticking out and made your bum look fluffy. When it was raining they used to soak up water past your knees. They were horrible, but everyone had them. They weren't called MIss Sexy then though.

What's wrong with M&S trousers? DD's cost £12 for a 2-pack. Not exactly break-the-bank prices, and I'm uber-skint. And they don't look as tarty unsuitable as these trousers - they look like school trousers. DD is 13yo and in Y9. And having bought them before, I know they last a full school year, in fact, her old ones still look in perfect condition, I've only bought new ones because DD has grown.

DD's school would have them in Isolation quicker than you could click your fingers if they turned up in these trousers. Or if they wore those lycra belt-skirts. Or dyed your hair a non-standard colour.

What does it say on the red label in the picture?
I wouldnt allow a schoolgirl to wear anything that said 'sexy' anywhere.School is acting responsibly you should comply and buy new trousers asap.

YABU. For buying fashion wear as school uniform in the first place. Not to mention anything with 'Miss Sexy' on the label. How could you think that was appropriate?

YANBU. I think the point which you are making, which many posters are missing, is that there was no directive about these trousers when you bought them, others were already wearing them. Now, when term is underway, the school are making a fuss. I had this at DDs primary school. They changed the uniform rules, halfway through the term. I was bloody livid!
Yes, they are very trendy, and not necessarily school style, but if they were accepted, and are now not, once they have been bought, then the school ABU.

I honestly think this teasing over clothes is more of a British thing.

As a nation our teens are much more intolerant of others.

My children attend school in the states ,no uniform and no bitching.

They attend school with many Amish children ,the girls wear bonnets/dresses and the boys attend with simple trousers and braces. There is zero tolerance for teasing them, or any other religious clothing.(pentecostal)

Now,I know all this looks unrelated ...but I can now see how in the UK our teens feel pressured in to wearing what all their friends are.

I also think schools should be far stricter with dress codes.

I left in 1988 ,I messed with my uniform (like everyone else) but ...the difference was I knew I was doing wrong.

It must be difficult for the op as I can totally see how it must be a pain to now have to buy more trousers...

YANBU anyway! :)

I'm bloody dreading this... My DD is 4. She starts school next September. I pointed out some nice (I thought) school uniform in Sainsbury's. A couple of days later she tells me she doesn't want to go big school (previously was keen). Turns out this is because she doesn't want to wear 'those sort of clothes'.

Oh, and, of course she will be wearing it. I look forward to years of uniform pushing. No idea where she gets this from

MUFFIN REVOLUTION!!

:)

We don't have uniforms here and oh how I wish we did. DS is a very, uh, ermm... "lively" boy, shall we say and quite "tenacious." And getting him out of the house without saying "No you can't wear the Spiderman t-shirt; it's in the wash" fifty times would be grand indeed.

The schools that do have uniforms seem to have a specific company you can order them from, which might cut down on this sort of issue.

Of course you'll still have the girls who buy their skirts a size too small and the boys who get their regulation khakis extra big to pull down over their arses. :)

I left secondary school 10 years ago and those were the trousers we all used to wear, although not with that name

I don't see anything wrong with the style of the trousers tbh

but CeeYouNextTuesday , I didn't miss that, don't think many people did really. surely the point is that the school has a uniform policy, of which they will have all been informed, and loads of parents have basically disregarded it/flounted it and bought these trousers for the dd which most people here seem to agree are totally unsuitable. So what's the school supposed to do? Accept loads of people breaking the rules and turning up in their interpretation of the uniform, or restate the uniform and explain that those trousers fall way outside the required standards.

So while the ban on that particular brand may have just been announced, the fact almost certainly is that the uniform policy was clear, and most sensible parents would know what constitutes a school uniform trouser. The OP and loads of other by the sounds of it chose to break the rule, now the school have pointed it out. She and the others should have bought proper trousers in the 1st place. And bloody hell, if it's true that it's 2 pairs for 12 quid in M&S there's no bloody excuse anyway.

Sigh.

No point in taking the piss then moaning afterwards when you get called up on it is there?

Whoever it is that thinks in the UK we have a problem with being bullied/teased for clothes and you don't in germnay, that's wrongs, from my experience.

Ive worked in a german school and from what I could see the fashioon was clearly abercrombie/hollister clothes. I did a lesson on school uniform and showed them my old school photos. Across the whole school I asked questions like 'what happens here if yóu don't have nice/designer/trendy clothes?' They all said that you would be left out or bullied etc.

Also I would prefer kids in school uniform than what I saw there. In general it waas ok but in the summer months the girls wore the shortest shortest shorts know to man with the tiniest tops!

"Whoever it is that thinks in the UK we have a problem with being bullied/teased for clothes and you don't in germnay, that's wrongs, from my experience."

That was me.

Of course, we both only have our own experiences.

I´m in a small town & the "uniform" is pretty much jeans & t-shirts/sweat tops.

Neither have mine have asked for any specific brand-although mainly shop in H&M and C&A-which are perhaps "acceptable"?

They look like low hipsters which on certain figures cold look inappropriate so better to ban them all I suppose.

the ROUGH ones with the belt?
ew and you spent money on those

Sorry diddl I'm postin on a blackberry so didn't scroll back for the name.
Perhaps its the difference in area, I was working in cologne, and the school was in a quite affluent area so maybe my teens were the exception to the rule! I was shocked at the tiny shorts though, I laughed because I couldn't imagine getting away with that in an english school!

leverkusen - that's not been my experience at all. Totally the opposite. My kids all go to the school in the most basic, cheapest jeans I can buy, and I'll get them t-shirts from M&S, H&M, basically anywhere with 2 initials it seems.

They don't look after their clothes, roll in mud and climb tree so I won't spend loads of money at all. Not once have they been commented on. And I'd say they don't look any different from their peers. I also work in my ds school and never heard any comments. Never been aware of any clothes related bullying.

Now ds1 in secondary, he's (and therfore I'm seeing) all the older teens and not once have I seen any of the girls dressed skimpy or inapproriately. Mainly jeans and t-shirts there too, albeit skinny jeans. The boys do tend to wear their jeans at half mast though Not a good look.

OTOH, when I return to the UK, my eyes are generally on stalks with what girls wear, esp with the girls in their uniforms. I thought my mum was exaggerating when she described the teeny minis they wore. SHe wasn't.

FFS either have a uniform or don't. If you have one, enforce it, parents and school alike. It looks so shit to see the majority of the school taking the piss with it.

I don't mind the trousers (I don't think they're sexy) but the fact that it says Miss Sexy is innapropriate. And actually, I think that the school probably didn't think it necessary to issue a ban on the word "sexy" on school uniform.

i think the cut of trousers in a bit inapropriate for school but thats just my opinion. However girls have always deviated from the school uniform rules.

I think you will have to just buy some more if them are the rules.

This is going to be me in 10 years

Surely if they want you to buy yet another pair of trousers they should pay for them. If they don't have the common courtesy to tell you before the holidays and before you do your uniform shop then it's their problem, not yours. And if they keep pulling dd out of class to discuss trousers they're effecting the level of education received.

Write that in a letter

what does the uniform policy state exactly in terms of girls' trousers?

Ernest I think that you are making assumptions. Nowhere in the OP does it say that it is stated in the uniform code that these trousers are not suitable. Our school rule just says trousers: black. How do you know that the OPs isn't the same. The issue I had, was that the item dd was wearing, was not against the uniform code either, and had been an accepted item for years. then, mid term, the school did an about face. No warning, just like that. it happens. A lot.