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To not know whether to tell these parents re drugs and their daughter

54 replies

CrossroadsMotel · 13/09/2011 23:10

Hello.
I run a small accommodation business and I was asked if I would allow a girl to hold a 21st birthday "gathering" there with a dozen or so of her friends.
I was very reluctant, for obvious reasons (most of our visitors are families and couples) but her parents offered a very hefty security deposit against breakages and she agreed no loud music or riotous behaviour. So they turned up this weekend.
Her parents also came down to drop her off, came in to see me to reassure me, and paid for the whole four-day holiday for all the kids. The parents seemed terribly nice, the birthday seemed a bit of a posh hippie.
Anyway, the stay went off OK, so I gave them back the deposit and then came clean-up time. In the kitchen on a shelf by the cooker we found a small freezer-type ziplock bag with a square of magazine paper inside it folded into an envelope. Inside that was about a teaspoonful of chunky off-white crystals.
We then had a frantic search down every side of sofa, under every rug, etc etc and found two loose white pills on the floor in the sitting room. Which may of course have been aspirin.
Do I complain to her, do I complain to her parents, do I call the police? Bearing in mind this is my business and livelihood and I really could do without it being publicised as a drug den. I'm obviously furious, but maybe I was being naive to think this wouldn't happen? Imagine if my next guests had found the drugs? Also - can anyone guess what the crystals were, I've never seen anything like it. Advice would be very welcome please, thanks everyone!

OP posts:
lesley33 · 14/09/2011 17:08

I don't see what other fair option you have other than to accept it with a shrug. There is no proof the drugs belong to this girl, that she knew anything about it or even that they are illegal drugs.

If you tell the girl's parents you are making assumptions that she did know and that the drugs are illegal. I would not be happy making accusations if I did not actually know the facts.

I think your only 2 options are either to foget this or tell the police. It is then up to the police to investigate. But don't expect the police to necessarily take this seriously and be aware that it may become gossip.

ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs · 14/09/2011 17:14

Who would publicise your business as a drug den out of interest?

Tiredmumno1 · 14/09/2011 17:14

Go and throw it in a public bin somewhere in case flushing dont dissolve it, that goes for everything you found.

Then forget about it and move on

FilthyDirtyHeathen · 14/09/2011 17:20

If this had happened in our house I would have had to lock my husband in the cellar to stop him from sampling the left overs.

It sounds like a bit of MDMA or speed or possibly rough coke. I would flush and forget if I were you. It was stupid of them to leave these things lying around where kids could find them but fortunately, you were vigilant and prevented any serious problems.

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CrossroadsMotel · 14/09/2011 17:21

Lesley33 I think you are right, and I don't want to involve the police as it may well cause adverse gossip.
I'm just pissed off after the mega stress of searching the whole place high and low in fear that there would be a repeat of Jude Law's kid taking ecstacy that time in Soho House.
Just to clarify, I'm not taking a moral stance on this, yes she is 21 and I couldn't care less what she does elsewhere. I'm just annoyed that she and this bunch of people thought it was OK to break the law on my property, potentially dropping me in a bunch of trouble and endangering other guests, after specifically promising to be completely angelic. I find it hard to believe that with only a dozen of them staying, she woudn't have known exactly what was going on.
Her parents said: "Let us know if there is any problems at all", so given that they paid me, not her, that is why I was thinking of having a word.

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CrossroadsMotel · 14/09/2011 17:40

ripstheirthroatout: "who would publicise it?" Yes I know it isn't going to make the 6pm news! However, running a small business in a competitive market, in a small country village, you do have to be careful about your reputation, especially as we might be wanting to get planning permission to expand. We'd never hear the end of it, it's one of those stories where mud would stick, I feel sure.

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SummerRain · 14/09/2011 17:41

Dear lord... do you really think none of your other guest have ever done anything illegal on your property before? Hmm

I'd guess speed from your description, and ecstacy for the pills. Often taken together as have similar effects.

hester · 14/09/2011 17:42

Accept it with a shrug.

knittedbreast · 14/09/2011 17:46

i tell you what, why dont you send them to me and i will go out of my way to test them for you? ;)

When i have discovered what they are I promise to dispose of them safely.

yavu to get even slightly pissed off at this, you do know that a very large majority of the world are getting of high of something, be it alcohol or coke.

by the way it sounds like mdma, does it have a slight tint to it thats pink or brown? if so probebly mdma, if its like glass shards and not coloured more likely crystal meth. if its the latter you better flush it

FabbyChic · 14/09/2011 17:51

So they left their coke behind, it's not really a big deal.

I didn't touch cocaine until I was 36 then only recreational for a year then stopped.

Just throw it away and forget about it.

Besides it might not be hers might be someone elses who was with her.

FabbyChic · 14/09/2011 17:51

GET A GRIP.

It is not illegal to take it, it is illegal to deal and be in possession of it.

FabbyChic · 14/09/2011 17:52

Sorry to post again, but anal sex is illegal, I bet someone has been buggered in your place at some point.

squeakytoy · 14/09/2011 17:55

Fabby, I think they changed the law on that Grin

ImpyCelyn · 14/09/2011 18:04

Anal sex isn't illegal.

OP just get rid of it. You don't know who it belonged to or what it is so just chuck it and forget it.

I agree it could have been unfortunate if other guests had found it, but would you not have checked all the rooms after they left anyway?

MarginallyNarkyPuffin · 14/09/2011 18:04

'I'm just pissed off after the mega stress of searching the whole place high and low'

Hmm Hopefully you would have cleaned the place before you had new guests? So two pills on the floor (that could have been paracetemol) and the wrap on the shelf would always have been noticed.
Lots of people take medication. You'd have more chance of finding lots of dropped tablets after hosting pensioners. Legally prescribed tablets can also be dangerous to children.

I'd be more worried about your cleaning standards. Don't you always go over every room thoroughly???

FabbyChic · 14/09/2011 18:05

Aaaah bum shagging used to be illegal for a married couple, have they now made it compulsory?

Im on me tod so Im okay! ha ha

MarginallyNarkyPuffin · 14/09/2011 18:10

'by the way it sounds like mdma, does it have a slight tint to it thats pink or brown? if so probebly mdma, if its like glass shards and not coloured more likely crystal meth. if its the latter you better flush it'

Ah, kids today with their MP3s and their MDMA. In my day we had a CD mix and a couple of Mitsubishis and we were bloody grateful for it.

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pippilongsmurfing · 14/09/2011 18:17

You could not have been too concerned initially as you gave the parents back the security deposit? Or did you do that without checking the rooms?
If you didn't check then you must have been reasonably assured that the girl and her guests were ok and had not trashed the place.

As they did not trash the place and you found 2 loose pills which could be anything and 1 wrap of what may/may not be drugs of unknown type, you cannot be sure they were even the girls drugs, it might have been one of her mates.

I would just flush them down the loo and forget it, FFS, you got paid, they didn't wreck the place, you are very naive to think they are the first people to possibly take drugs in your establishment.

What did you think you were going to do? If you did ring the girls parents I'm sure that would have a negative effect on your bookings anyway.
If I was a 21yr old I wouldn't want to book a place with you in case you rang my parents up afterwards saying I was having bumsex with pigeons when you have no PROOF SHE did anything wrong.

BatsUpMeNightie · 14/09/2011 18:17

I bet whoever lost it was pissed off as all getout! Listen OP - I once had to take a bag of white powder to the Police, having found it in the toilets of an establishment I was running (and only then because some idiot found it before me!!). They could not have cared less and seemed to rather resent having to fill in yet more forms.

Just flush it and calm down.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 14/09/2011 18:19

MNP Grin

Bin 'em and forget about it OP, I've worked in posh hotels and the stuff we found in the rooms would make your toes curl - and went straight down the loo.

MardyArsedMidlander · 14/09/2011 18:27

Would you all be so blase, if this was your child's 21st party? I sincerely hope not. You don't stop being their parent, no matter what their age.

At what age do you stop though? 21? Thirty? Forty five? I would say that anyone who is an adult in law does not need their parents being rung up- when you don't even know who the drugs belonged to or what they are.

People can leave all sorts behind after staying at a B&B. I am a little Shock that you are acting like it's a one off for you to clean the place thoroughly!

spiderslegs · 14/09/2011 18:35

Anyway, they clearly weren't that degenerate - they had drugs left over, never 'appened in my day.

spiderslegs · 14/09/2011 18:38

Ahh - I see MNP has already given it the 'in my day' joke, story of my life, always late to the party.

Still, lightweights.

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