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To be annoyed that DH & I weren't invited to lunch?

36 replies

PollyPeppa · 13/09/2011 21:40

My mum, her step daughter, my brother & his GF all went out for lunch at pizza express today.

I called Mum this morning as we were going to pop round with some things for her, we chatted for a while and she said she was going out for lunch with someone very vaguely & changed the subject.

We usually all go out together and I just feel a bit left out TBH. Only found out they all went out as we drove past them coming out of the restaurant.

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thisisyesterday · 13/09/2011 22:35

how old is your stepsister? does she live with your mum?

SexualHarrassmentPandaPop · 13/09/2011 22:35

I think it depends on the family yesterday . I'd have no problem with my mum having lunch with my sister but if we'd always previously all gone together and 1 time they didn't invite me I would wonder why.

SexualHarrassmentPandaPop · 13/09/2011 22:36

Unless my birthday was coming up Grin

thisisyesterday · 13/09/2011 22:37

yeah, i'd wonder why too... but i think (hope) i would realise that my mum and brother are allowed to spend time together without me, and that I could do the same if i wanted...

it's not the end of the world.

thisisyesterday · 13/09/2011 22:38

in fact, i would assume that brother wanted to talk to mum alone?

ExitPursuedByaBear · 13/09/2011 22:39

As has been said, maybe they wanted an adults only lunch. Your title asks why you and your DH were not invited, but you do not mention your DS, and yet later you say that your DS would have loved to tell them about his first day at nursery. With the best will in the world, and seriously without wanting to say anything hurtful, maybe the lunch was about them, not your DS's first day at nursery.

weaselbudge · 13/09/2011 22:40

You mention that your DS would have loved to tell them about first day at nursery.. maybe they wanted an "adult" lunch and are excluding DS not you?? I know that sometimes toddlers mean that no adult conversation is possible round a lunch table and my in-laws regularly exclude us if they don't want kids about! not nice tho

notlettingthefearshow · 13/09/2011 22:40

Sometimes it's nice to see loved ones in smaller groups to have more time to talk, so I think that's normal - especially if she sees him less often or they wanted to talk about something specific. It is a bit odd your mum didn't mention it, but maybe she didn't want you to invite yourself along? I honestly wouldn't read anything into it. If you have a good relationship with your mum or brother, you can always ask to put your mind at ease.

ExitPursuedByaBear · 13/09/2011 22:42

x posts with weasel Grin

thisisyesterday · 13/09/2011 22:44

maybe the mum knew that PP would make a fuss over it and want to come? that's why she didn't say anything

PP, you should call your mum and see when you can go around so that DS can tell her all about school. He can still have his go...

Whatmeworry · 13/09/2011 22:45

Exactly my thoughts...does DB have small/any DCS?

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