To not want to hand over my work

[CovMum]

I did a course last year and have a folder that contains all my work. I really struggled with the course and spend hours on it. I have been asked by a colleague to give it to her for her son as he is doing the course this year to look at. I like my colleague and she gave me loads of help with my course which I am very grateful for. But her son doesn't speak to me usually when I see him. I want to say NO but I can't bring myself to. I am a soft touch and always have been. e.g. ended up taking and collecting a friends child to school for over a year without a thank you until she moved away. I worry if I say no I will look bad and mean for not doing it.

Thanks all. I have been awake most of the night mulling this over. I am going to offer my notes and see how it goes.

Good! You can provide help or guidance without handing over your pride and joy.

My lazy brother's tutor once sent back an essay, marked 0%, with the comment "Tell your sister she's getting rusty. This is below her usual standard."
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garlicbutty

YABU what's all this talk of plagiarism?! He only wants to LOOK at it FFS. I looked at other students dissertations in my last year to get a feel for the kind of layout I should be using, I certainly didn't copy anyone's work.

Let the kid look at it. It's not doing any harm as long as he's aware it's just as a study aid, not his coursework already done for him.

YANBU. I was very grateful to get 2 lots of revision notes at uni from friends doing the same degree who sat Finals the year before me, and both of whom got Firsts. It was a massive, massive help, and I decided to pay it forward by giving my revision notes to a friend in the year below mine. But I would never have dreamed of asking for someone's notes - let alone demanding them - and would definitely have been miffed if someone had pestered me for mine.

If you've worked bloody hard then it's in no way unreasonable to resent someone just wanting to coast through on your coattails.

I would say that I would be happy to talk to the son and show him the sort of coursework required. I definitely wouldn't hand it over.