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To leave this sentence in my son's homework

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inthehead · 11/09/2011 09:45

"I hate my mother"

A sentence using mother and underlining the noun and verb etc.

To represent the family stress that is caused by all this bloody homework.

Yes, he hates me as Im making him do such a shitload of homework each weekend!

or will they call SS?

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gillybean2 · 11/09/2011 10:07

Keep your hair on OP. I was clearly assuming he was at secondary.

Too much homework for age 6 and forcing him to do it without giving the teacher any idea how stressful and difficult is for your ds is doing a dis-service to him and to the teacher.

The teacher will want to know if he has struggled and I seriously doubt they would expect him to spend more than 15 mins on any homework at that age.

Write a note to go with teh homework explaining that ds is finding it far too much and it is very stressful for you both and ask them to contact you re this. Then speak to the teacher and see if you can sort it out.

Ds got reading homework. When he went into KS2 they had reading but also once a week would get a maths or written sheet. That was plenty.

My dn would get tonnes along the way you describe and it drove my sister nuts as she had younger dc and worked too etc. Her ds has SN too and struggles with written work. Moving him to a more understanding school was the best thing she ever did for him.

seeker · 11/09/2011 10:08

If you feel you can't just not do it, where does he go afterschool during the week? Could he do homework with who ever looks after him then?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 11/09/2011 10:10

I think the schedule is the problem. That amount of homework isn't excessive when spread over a week but if you're asking him to do it all at the weekend - when they'd all rather be out doing other things - then it'll be a PITA for him. What does he do in between finishing school and 6pm when you get home? Wherever he is, could he get into a habit of doing a little homework in the evening before supper.... spread the load a little? My DS used to do his homework at after-school club before I picked him up.

2BoysTooLoud · 11/09/2011 10:15

My year 2 ds gets no home work.
I might suggest he expands his sentence eg- 'I hate my mother because she makes me do my home work'. He may get merit for using a 'connective'!
Poor him and poor you.
Good luck with it.

diddl · 11/09/2011 11:36

If that homework is for the week, is there absolutely no way to do a couple of sentences a night?

noblegiraffe · 11/09/2011 11:40

'I hate my homework' might be more accurate.

Talker2010 · 11/09/2011 11:42

www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Schoolslearninganddevelopment/SchoolLife/DG_179508

1 hour per week at this age ... if it is taking him longer then cherry pick the bits that seem most useful and send a note in with him

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inthehead · 11/09/2011 14:17

After school he is at grandparents a few days and at after school clun the others. Gp wont /arent capable of doing it as they are quite elderly and dont really understand and the after school doesnt have a facility for homework.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 11/09/2011 14:47

All his GPs have to do is let him sit at a table with his books and offer juice, biscuits and moral support. If he spends 15 minutes doing his homework you can check it when he gets home. Then he has his weekends to himself and isn't grumpy any more....

birdofparadise · 11/09/2011 14:48

"Poor" is not an adverb, it is an adjective. Adverbs are the "ly" words that modify a verb: examples are "vehemently", "passionately", "slowly" and "carefully".

"I hate my poor mother" is a sentence that contains no adverb.

Instead, he should put "I vehemently hate my mother." Wink

He doesn't mean it.

It doesn't sound like too much homework btw. Literacy and numeracy are fundamental to later success in life and will stand him in good stead.

OTOH, if homework is making your DS miserable because he CAN'T do it, even after trying his best, and having help (rather than because he would rather be watching TV for that hour or two) then talk to the teacher and ask her to set work of a standard that is more appropriate to his current level of attainment. It's no fun being demoralised. Encourage him to put the time in and reward him with a big hug when he finishes it.

diddl · 11/09/2011 14:51

TBH I would have thought that the GPs could be of some help.

Even if it was thinking of words for a sentence.

Could they do reading with him?

cheesesarnie · 11/09/2011 14:52

were told do what you can in a certain time frame.if it takes longer,leave the rest.

PurpleRayne · 11/09/2011 15:00

Way to cultivate a love of learning. Not. Poor kid.

TheOriginalFAB · 11/09/2011 15:05

I find it hard to believe a school thinks that much homework is fine for a six year old. My child has just gone in to year 2 and his homework at the moment is to read to us 4 times a week. IIRC from DS1 and dd he will get spellings to learn later in the year.

80sMum · 11/09/2011 15:06

What is the school thinking of giving a six-year-old homework to do? poor little lad will have had enough of school by the time home time comes around. When do the teachers expect the children to have time to relax and unwind after school? Maybe you should ask to talk to the headteacher about this. Tell him/her that it is spoiling your relationship with your son.

distractedhousewife · 11/09/2011 15:19

I think the teacher was a little unwise to ask for sentences including the word 'mother'. It should have been obvious that just this kind of situation could arise, IMHO. What about maybe suggesting to the teacher that, in future, less emotive words could be selected for sentence-construction purposes. Might be awkward e.g. for children coming from families where there has been a less than amicable split..?

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inthehead · 11/09/2011 16:54

No diddl they are not educated people.

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inthehead · 11/09/2011 16:55

Oh god, yes you are right bird looks like Im not that bright either Blush

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seeker · 11/09/2011 18:01

Oh come on, you don't have to be an educated person to help a 6 year old with his homework!

All you have to do is sit at the table with them and feed them chocolate buttons and suggest useful word for the sentences!

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inthehead · 11/09/2011 18:22

Its hard to describe but these people are in their 80's and really wouldnt do that. She would go off on some kind of fuss and makes weird (seriously) noises with a "oo we wouldnt know how to do that". These people sisnt even see their own kids to school, in fact I dont think any of them went past grade 8.

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exoticfruits · 11/09/2011 21:38

If it really bothers you, get him to add 'when she makes me do my homework'.

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