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Couples facebooking when they're in the same house - oh come on!

86 replies

Bennifer · 10/09/2011 11:03

Anyone else find this irritating. Couples who post their status for the other person to comment on it, and so on, when they're in the same house. Why do it? AIBU?

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MrsSatsuma · 10/09/2011 11:08

YANBU. I HATE it when I post something (not ever directed at DH) and he comments on it. Just say it to me, I'm in the same house!!! Grr...

whackamole · 10/09/2011 11:08

Very, YANBU! I have a couple of friends they are married and have 2 children. Not only do they post nauseating 'gorgeous hubby home in 5!' type posts, but they have FB conversations when they are clearly in the same room not only the same house!

Tee2072 · 10/09/2011 11:09

Same house? We do it from the same room.

What's it to you?

Tee2072 · 10/09/2011 11:09

Oh we have also been known to text from room to room or even IM. Beats yelling.

usualsuspect · 10/09/2011 11:11

I don't care how other people use their own fb tbh

Andrewofgg · 10/09/2011 11:12

It's like the phone call in the supermarket: I'm just over by the fish-counter.

CailinDana · 10/09/2011 11:12

DH and I do it for the amusement of our friends. We are very witty.

GrownUpNow · 10/09/2011 11:12

Sometimes I log myself into both accounts and have conversations with myself too... is funny.

usualsuspect · 10/09/2011 11:12

I chat to my ds on fb all the time ,when hes upstairs and I'm downstairs Grin

eaglewings · 10/09/2011 11:12

Dh and I use FaceTime now if we are in different rooms, are house is too big to shout.

YABU, just ignore it!

tothemoonandback · 10/09/2011 11:13

If it annoys you just remove them from your friends list.

StrandedBear · 10/09/2011 11:15

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Andrewofgg · 10/09/2011 11:16

GrownUpNow You can probably get help for that, although you may be too far gone . . . :o

duckdodgers · 10/09/2011 11:20

Well I dont get all the lovely dovey stuff but me and DH have been known to comment on each others posts but its usually in relation to someone elses thread and its like a 3 plus way conversation, posts are generally funny type things as well. We are in the same house but obviously the other people arent!!!

TrillianAstra · 10/09/2011 11:32

YABU, because there is a Facebook topic.

TAMPONS

CalamityKate · 10/09/2011 11:36

I think it's more for the benefit of anyone looking at the page than each other. I know a couple like this; their FB conversations go on for like 30 posts when they're clearly in the same room/house, and it's apparent that they think they're being witty and entertaining, and imagine that everyone else is reading and thinking "Wow, they're just, like, so witty and entertaining!" when in fact it's just a bit sad.

I also go Hmm when the female half of the couple posts something like "I love you baby, you always cheer me up, you don't realise how special you are, blah blah blah" and I think "Why not either TELL him face to face, or TEXT him?? Why on EARTH would you want to put it on a public site?!"

It just smacks of attention seeking/showing off. In fact I think in this case she posts an awful lot of slush in the hope that his ex girlfriend will see it.

A lot of FB coupley stuff is akin to a dog peeing up a lamp-post, basically.

OvO · 10/09/2011 11:42

I message demands of tea and toast to my DH on facebook. But in a private message so people can't see how bossy and demanding I am. Grin

NotJustKangaskhan · 10/09/2011 11:52

YANBU. I think some people do need to be reminded that Facebook has a chat option. I use it frequently with my husband when I want to pass him a link or remind him of something that isn't important and can wait until after he's finished what he's currently working on.

I don't get the desire to make a status to him specifically for his comments, he does pop up if I'm discussing what I did today or future plans obviously.

wannaBe · 10/09/2011 11:57

I think all the lovey -dovey messages are more about trying to convince each other tbh.

I've recently deactivated my fb account, but I used to have people on there that would post things like "oh, x has the best man in the world," followed by "I love you too baby, so so so much xxx" I mean really! these are 40 something men and women with children of their own... if you love each other, tell each other, but the public declarations are clearly about wanting other people to see... It's blatant attention-seeking.

M0naLisa · 10/09/2011 11:57

DH will sometimes comment on something i have wrote as a status but then i only see it later on. ~He doesnt post then say' ahh i just replied to your status' like some couples do.

confusedpixie · 10/09/2011 12:03

YANBU but YABU at the same time. I hate it, especially the lovey dovey crap, but I tend to post things to my boyfriend's wall often (normally links to Bob the Angry Flower, Cadbury's Teapots and other shite) even if we're sitting on Skype chatting (currently not living together) Blush And when we are together at the weekends we have been known to chat via fb when sitting right next to each other just to wind each other up.

If people watched our interactions on fb they'd think we either a) hate one another because of the amount of 'abuse' we comment or b) think we're nutters for the sort of things we link to one another. Probably both.

BallantyneBird · 10/09/2011 12:08

"If people watched our interactions on fb they'd think we either a) hate one another because of the amount of 'abuse' we comment or b) think we're nutters for the sort of things we link to one another. Probably both."

But the thing is, it's not IF people see your interactions, if you are in their News Stream then they WILL see them. Do you actually WANT them to think a) or b) above? Confused

Bandwithering · 10/09/2011 12:10

I read one comment that made me laugh. Husband's status "these ear phones are so shit". Wife "yeah I know, I can hear your 'music'.

Whatmeworry · 10/09/2011 12:17

The ones on Twitter are even worse IMO

confusedpixie · 10/09/2011 12:17

BallantyneBird: being honest, I'm not too fussed, we got together in May but have been friends for 6 years, we did exactly the same as just friends! It's just banter which our friends/family join in with Grin

But then both of us only have people on our FBs who we know well and get along with, so they know we're only being silly and in the case of the links, know we're a bit strange already Grin If I had a bunch of people I never knew on my FB I would probably think twice about posting some of the sillier things though admittedly.

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