Yesterday after school I took dd and ds to the playground across the road. A couple of other children from school were there one was a boy in his year and the other an older boy in dd's class. Ds began to get upset as the other two started to call him names and regrettable dd got swept up in it and started to join in.
I was very cross with dd and took them away and didn't give dd her treat/laid the l.aw down about name calling and sticking up for her brother.
Tonight there were lots of other children in the playground. I was stood at one end actually chatting to the mum of the two boys and mentioned in passing about the name calling and the fact ds was upset and dd had been chastised.
Dd then ran up saying that they were calling names again. I told her to tell ds to ignore it. She came back and said one of the two boys had taken his school bag and wouldn;t give it back. I told her to tell them they had better give it back. She then came up again and said that ds was crying becasue somone had pulled his hair. I stormed over to the roundabout ds was on it sobbing and about 12 other children were on it (quite a crush) ds's bag was in the middle of the roundabout where the older boy was. All the otehr childern except one were from school but I didn't know most of them as they were older than ds.
I was fuming, I forcibly stopped the roundabout and told them to stop it now they had better start playing nicely and being kind to each other. I lifted ds off the roundabout and went to sit nearby. Then the younger boy fromthe day before picked up ds's bag and made as though to throw it across the playground. I yelled you'd better not throw that (despite having no idea what I would actually be able to do if he did) and I took the bag off him. I calmed ds down and sent him off to play elsewhwre. Later one of the other older boys came to me to ask if ds was allowed to go on the roundabout as they wanted to push it really fast. I said of course he could it was the being unkind I didn't want.
I am now concerned about ds is going to be treated in school if they could behace like this right under my eyes. The younger boy was in ds's class last year but not this year and they were friends. The older boy was involved in a serious but non physical incident last year too.
Dh and mil think I should go into school and speak to the teacher about it. AIBU to do that? Ds had a difficult year at school last year and did very little work but this week in his new class has been a different child he has worked hard, loves his teacher and classmates and has come home bright and talkative. His behavious has improved immensly. He has always been a very popular child at school especially with the older children although several of those have left now to go to high school.