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to expect the school to be concerned if a 10/11 y/o girl is 20 mins late for a lesson

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whatkatydidathome · 08/09/2011 18:16

dd is nearly 11 and just in y 6. She was 20 minuites late back to class after lunch and no one noticed. Should I be concerned? (No pupil goes home for lunch.)

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whatkatydidathome · 08/09/2011 19:38

activate I have tried to teach her how to tell the time, as has dh.

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dirtydishesmakemesad · 08/09/2011 19:41

I would be upset with your dd she she would have seen signs the lesson was starting. I would also get her a digital watch if she struggles with a normal clock.

FabbyChic · 08/09/2011 19:42

Teach her the time and buy her a watch, ten is far too old not to be able to tell the time.

FredBare · 08/09/2011 19:48

set the alarm to beep when lunch is over

zipzap · 08/09/2011 19:52

Seconding those that have said about not disrupting others, I used to have a teacher in secondary school that if anybody was late (even if just a minute) and came in and apologised, they got a huge unforgettable rollicking for disturbing the rest if the class.

On the other hand, you could come in quietly after half an hour and so long as you didn't disturb anyone he wouldn't say anything. He reckoned it was teaching people to be responsible for themselves and being respectful of others. If you didn't get to class on time then you shouldn't spoil it for those who did.

SnapesMistress · 08/09/2011 22:51

No need to be concerned about the reading, some children just prefer it to the company of other children, I did at that age.

If she was reafing she is unlikely to have noticed other students moving. I was once reading in class age 8 after lunch which we always did before circle time. When I looked up everyone was sat on the carpet having a lesson, I was so engrossed I hadn't noticed and my teacher just left me be since she thought I was enjoying myself.

worraliberty · 08/09/2011 22:56

Depends on the layout of the school

If it was my son's Junior school, I'm sure they would assume he's been called to the Head Teacher's office or something and they forgot to inform the class teacher.

The reason being...no child can get out the electronic gates without the secretary buzzing them out.

cat64 · 08/09/2011 22:57

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fedupofnamechanging · 08/09/2011 23:03

I think they should have been concerned. Although children are not supposed to leave school, it is not impossible for them to do so (presumably), so I think they should have started looking.

ll31 · 09/09/2011 00:18

I think at 11 its down to her not the school to ensure she's where she's suposed to be...

Glitterandglue · 09/09/2011 00:38

Surely the point of having an afternoon register is to check that everyone's there, and if they're not, that the teacher knows the reason for it? Even if they couldn't get out of the school they could've had an accident somewhere no one saw and be unable to get help, could have got into an argument with someone and be crying somewhere and too upset to get back to class, be being violently sick... Even as an adult if you expect your mate to be somewhere and they aren't, unless they have form for it you tend to be a bit worried. As a teacher and about a kid in your care? Yeah, you should definitely be concerned no one knows where they are.

cory · 09/09/2011 09:12

They do seem a bit lack-a-daisical about it. I would have expected them at least to have noticed- and to have given her detention.

It is her responsibility to sort out how she gets back to class if she can't tell the time (make sure she keeps together with people who can/stay out in the playground/get a digital watch etc) and the school should make sure she knows that. fwiw my ds was also not able to tell the time at this age (we suspect dyslexia and he is about to be screened)- but he knew he had to make sure he went in to class when the others went in, so that meant he had to be where the others were.

SardineQueen · 09/09/2011 09:35

I don't think 20 mins is that long.

Maybe the teacher thought she was in the toilets doing something.

30 mins is about the time to start looking if they aren't allowed off school premises.

tuxedoprincess · 09/09/2011 10:33

If the school is secure I would not be too worried and thats why teacher presumably wasnt BUT I complained to my DS school when we had a letter home saying he had been absent from registration over a week ago and asking for us to explain why. a) I had no idea and b) if he wasnt there why did no one contact me? anything could have happened and it was not too long after that boy in Scotland failed to show at school and no one told parents, he turned up dead and poor parents had no idea hed been missing all day so no search party which may have saved him. DS school now has rigorous phone system in place, they dont show for registration... instant call asking why.

MmeLindor. · 09/09/2011 10:38

Sounds like she was so engrossed in her book that she missed the bell, which is actually a good thing - she likes to read.

Get her a digital watch with an alarm so that she doesn't do it again. And work on telling the time.

The school were a bit lax, but a quick chat with her teacher stating that you were concerned that she was not missed, should be enough.

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