To be scared of my mum?

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She's coming round tonight, not on her scheduled night which means something is going down.

Think she's realised I'm pissed off with her complete lack of interest in the DC (amongst other things), which means I'll actually have to deal with the issues instead of alternating between sulking like a teenager and pretending everything is fine.

We have a VERY strained relationship, loads of issues going right back to childhood which is why I sound like a 13yo!

I am actually quite tempted to hide

Do or Die it. Get stuck in

I fully sympathise (does my mum have a secret other family??) I've skirted around all the issues with my mum for decades. I'm sure avoidance isn't good for us in the long run!

I so want to tell her everything but she has an uncanny ability to cry and make me out to be the bad guy.

Might sound silly but before she arrives why don't you write down a list of things you'd like to say. Read it through a few times (or even have it with you!) and you won't get as confused or distracted by crying.

Good luck!

Glad I'm not alone with the crazy mother issues!

I would write a list but honestly nothing works with her, I can't bring up anything with her without her forcing out some tears and an awful lot of yelling. She has no idea what she did to me as a child, I had CBT too Zukie, I'd love for her to understand but I doubt she'd ever be willing to listen to anything that made her feel bad.

Lock doors, close curtains, dress as a clown with a mask and answer the door ''Nobody of THAT name HERE' if you have to...

Why have someone in your home and in your company if you don't like them?

Just why?

Full sympathy. Mother issues here too. Thanks for threads on relationships, I have diagnosed her as narc and this has helped me cope with her somewhat better. Like Zukies advice and this is how I mainly try to tolerate the time when I see her.