To never want to go out again

[FrenchRuby]

I'm over weight, I know I am but Im going to Slimming World and I've lost nearly 3 stone since may (had my baby in April). Im extremely sensitive about my weight, I used to have an eating disorder, I've been in recovery since I got pregnant last year and I thought I was doing well. I put on a stupid amount of weight in my pregnancy. After I had my daughter I started having panic attacks everytime I went out and thinking people were staring at me and used to avoid going out at all. Until I joined my Slimming World. And I thought I was doing really well and was feeling confident.
Until this past week. 2 days ago I was walking down the road and a guy shouted 'URGGGG' at me. I just shrugged it off but then about 3 cars later a guy screams out of the passenger window 'GO ON A FUCKING DIET' I've never felt so humiliated, there were loads of people on the road all looking at me. I got on the bus and sat at the back and cried. I felt so pathetic :(
And then again today I was waiting for the bus to go to the gym and some girls were in a car laughing and then she got out her phone and took a picture of me. (I know she took a picture because her flash went off)
Am I so much of a freak that people want to take a picture to show other people?
I never want to go out again.

Why do you ask that?

Ignore. You have lost the three stone. Words got round.
The ones that mock are the fat slabs in the car.
Keep going. You've got a reaction !!!

They must be very sad people with nothing else in their lives. Some people do it to look big in front of mates, others I think do it to make themselves feel better
I've been on a night out and had so many shouted remarks about my boobs, I came home in tears - it's horrible
Keep going, you are doing brilliantly. And like the poster said above, we are all walking with you

Why do you want to know how much I weigh RidingAlongInMyAutomobile ?

Thanks everyone for you replies, Im not going to let it bother me. He's just a stranger, I don't know him and I hope I wont see him again.

Disgusting morons!
I find the "yes but i can loose weight but you will always be stupid" works a treat!

seriously though it infuriates me who the hell do these idiots think they are,i always tell my dd that these types are often really insecure and need to put others down to make themselves feel good,i think that it is the case.

Don't let it bother you. As others have said, it says far more about them than you.

I know a person who would have done this when younger. His background was beyond awful. He is the most insecure person I have ever met - with good reason given his abandonment by 2 sets of parents. This is not said as an excuse, but so that you understand that such comments are more likely to be an expression of the individual's own insecurities rather than aimed at you personally.

You would be a better person than him even if you hadn't lost any weight. Losing weight makes you thinner- it doesn't make you a better person! So even if you stop losing weight or even put it back on, you are still
a good person and he is still a git.

As Judge Judy says: "Beauty fades - dumb is forever"

There will always be a breed of unevolved pond weed out there intent on making others miserable whether you are 30 stone or 9. At least you can do something about your size if you don't like it - they will be miserable little cretins forever

They are dickheads and cowards - shouting anonymously from cars going past.

There must be something wrong with their lives that they need to make themselves feel better by doing things like this. Just be glad that you are not them.

Look at it like this - they are in the minority. Most people walk and by and don't even notice. You have taken steps to improve your health and lose weight and have already lost 3 stone. You need willpower and determination to do that. You have to be strong to do that. As others have said, those were people were plain stupid and very unpleasant. I wouldn't want friends like that.

Ignorance is bliss - they must be very happy.

Well done for losing 3 stone, that is really fantastic and I bet your family and friends are very proud of you.

Don't let ignorant people get you down. If it happens again, turn around, stare them straight in the eye and say coldly, "You really are an ignorant, offensive buffoon. Does being mean make you feel big and important?"

Im heavily tattooed

more likely they were looking at you because of that than your weight

i am overweight and have never had anything shouted or people stared - if they had i would have smiled and waved back :)

Ruby what horrible experiences. Please do not let these idiots stop you living your life, going to the gym and most importantly please do NOT let this harm your recovery.

I had a eating disorder and like you tackled it when I fell pregnant last year. I too am extremely sensitive about my weight and can completely understand that these comments would be devastating.

As others have said - people who make these comments are complete idiots who have no comprehension of how they could make someone else feel. They won't be going home wondering if they have upset you or even think twice about it - because they are horrible people with horrible little lives who get their kicks in horrible ways. Pity them if anything.

You have done incredibly well, beating your eating disorder and losing weight in a healthy way. Concentrate on this.

Everytime I find myself obsessing over my weight or falling back into unhealthy habits (skipping meals etc), I just try and think about DD and how I want to be a good role model and make sure she does not grow up to have the same issues I have and I'm sure you are the same.

Just an aside - when you are feeling sensitive it is easy to think everyone is looking at you or making comments when that may not be the case at all.

Enjoy your lovely daughter and feel proud of what you have achieved