Having people standing right up close to you when you're at the bloody ATM giving you evils....

[MrBloomsNursery]

AIBU, or do these people peev other people off aswell?

So I was at the ATM today (withdrawing money). First I put in my card and withdrew some cash, and then withdrew some cash from our joint account and my Dad had asked me to get some money out for him aswell, so basically I had 3 cards that I needed to withdraw cash with.

A woman and her husband come and stand right up behind me whilst I was withdrawing the first amount. Now, please correct me if I am wrong, but I am not obligated to rush if someone is behind me at the ATM am I?

So I put my card back in my purse, and I take out the joint account card and put in the pin - I put the wrong pin in twice by accident - at this point the woman behind me comes and looks over my shoulder and says "HAS THE ATM RUN OUT OF CASH"? and I reply (without looking at her) "No, it's not accepting my pin". So then I put in the correct pin. When I am doing this, her husband calls to her, and says there is another cash point across the road (which there is). The woman replies with a "No", and then mumbles something

Then I take out money for my Dad, and when I turn around she is giving me EVILS!!! Like what the hell??? I was there before her, and if she was in that much of a rush, she could have easily crossed the road and used the other machine - What the hell was so special about the CO-OP ATM I was using?!!

I was so angry. First of all, you shouldn't stand up close to someone at the ATM. Secondly, why are you giving me dirty looks? Thirdly, if she hadn't stood so close I wouldn't have got all flustered and started putting in the wrong pin.
GOd those evil eyes she gave me!!! How rude!!

Why shouldn't someone get money out from different accounts? It's better to do it all at once than have to queue three times.

I live overseas where the ATMs are used to pay bills as well, so patience is a virtue here. You can wait 15 minutes for the ATM as the person in front stands there and types in everything to get their bills paid, and then draws cash!

If you step back and have boots on and sort of wiggle your heel as you put your foot down... it bloody hurts apparently

I accidentally did this to a 'yoof' (trousers round arse, baseball cap backwards etc) when he was so close to me at the ATM that he was knocking my handbag.

I apologised profusely, didn't realise he was so close, people usually wait a few feet back etc. He was a bit and then my DH and BIL turned up from across the road where they had been watching me with big on their faces. He then thought better of getting in my face, apologised and said he was in the wrong. May have been the fact that they are both over 6ft and BIL is a prop forward

Seen him around town a few times, and he gives space at the ATM now

You should always ensure you have space around you at an ATM. I once witnessed a theft of a pile (literally) of money at an exchange place, so if anyone is trying to crowd me, I am always wary. You should ask people to back off if they are crowding you too much.

However, more than one card for a transaction is actually rude, especially if there is only one person behind you, since it would cost you little to go behind him/her, after your first transaction.

If the woman had been in such a hurry, she had options. The OP has said there was another ATM - and even if there hadn't been, she could have politely asked the OP if she could nip in ahead of her - 'I'm sorry, I'm in a real hurry - would you mind if I just quickly got some cash out?' If someone asked me politely, I'd let them go first.

She didn't do this, so she was just rude and obnoxious.

I work in a college with atm inside the buildings. Once I was withdrawing some money when the student behind me commented on my account balance.
I gave out yards to him, he was baffled and couldn't see the problem with with standing so close he could see or being so thick as to make it obvious .

Next time someone gets right up close, turn your head, look them straight in the eye, and enunciate very carefully "Back Fuck Off Please" with a big grin. Works every time especially if you sort of twitch your head and shoulder as you say it. Or just start talking to yourself, a la Gollum, that usually shifts people too.

Next time I go to the ATM (probably won't be for a good few weeks now!!) I'm going to do all the things you lovely people have suggested!! I shall wear my pointy-est heels and practise "accidently" stepping back on vulnerable feet!! That'll teach 'em!!!

I read this thread after being upset by a woman standing behind me in an ATM queue came right up to me and asked if I was alright. I yelled at her to leave me alone and not talk to people who are doing their ATM business. I had to change my PIN, so had to enter the old PIN and the new PIN twice, which was quite slow, and I needed to be left alone without interruption because I needed to make sure I entered the new PIN correctly. This was an ATM inside a bank.

I wish banks would have signs near their inside ATM machines telling people to stand behind a certain point to give the person using the ATM some privacy, and not to interrupt the person at the ATM. If I go to the effort of using an ATM inside a bank, I want enough time and privacy.

Maybe if enough of us complained to banks about being crowded at their inside ATM's, they might start putting signs up or even getting their staff to ask people not to crowd people using the ATM's

There's a point in town where there are at least 10 ATMs in a twenty seconds or so walk radius - some are literally next to each other. But in summer when the tourists arrive they see a queue at one and all wait in line when the others are empty. It's not as if the rest are hidden, either, they're right on the street and you can stand in one spot and see every single one! Drives me batty.

I've used a good retort when I've been crowded at the supermarket checkout. It would work for ATMs too, and for both men and women.

'My perfume is [whatever you wear]' and then stand still and smile at the person. They go all confused and go 'What?' and then you smile sweetly again and go 'My perfume. You were stood so close to me, I thought you were smelling it.'

If it would have been me I would have taken twice as long, just to piss her off

Also, if someone stands too close to you, asking in an extremely snooty, posh voice 'can I help?' usually works a treat! Even better with a slow raise of the eyebrows!

I hate those who cosy up at cashpoints too.

I have perfected a stare, accompanied by "Step back please" that works quite well.

One really posh woman (Cheltenham has had a few of those travelling in small packs recently) stood close enough for her fur collar to tickle the back of my neck. I stopped turned and looked straight into the neck of said fur coat and mumbled something. She didn't even flinch, so I leaned back (that bank has a weird little step too) lokked up and shouted "Get away from me".

She looked down at me, round the edge of her mobile phone and with that wonderfully cut glass tone "Can I help?" ... some you just can't do anything woth!