Next door neighbours night time "activities" can be heard loud and clear...

[TettyLouBar]

Our bedroom is next to theirs, and they are very loud...her...AND him. EVERY saturday and now becoming more often during the week. I'm a light sleeper, DH is away with work so I listen out for kids even more than usual and next doors "antics" have started to wake me if I'm asleep. Its horrendous.
I even had to listen to them the night I went into LABOUR with DD2. Do I say anything????
(Nearly woke DD1 other night as she's in room next to me)

I have heard people in my block have sex, go to the toilet, talking, phone ringing etc. I am sure they have heard us and its just one of those things if you have thin walls.

having read up a bit i am very happy to say i am not your neighbour< phew>, you are right to a degree in the sense that when i stay with my parents etc and we have sex i obviously keep it significantly quieter than i would at home but it is chore and i do have to concentrate on that rather than enjoying the sex which is detrimental to the sex, so when at home you do just let loose and go with it rather than thinking about trying to be quiet i suppose.
its not and intention to share it with anyone hence my mortification when i thought she may have heard.

We suffer with this. She is soooooo obviously faking. I now think of her as 'the bad porn star'. Thankfully he is quiet. My neighbour also does the talking loudly on her mobile while having a fag in the garden (smoke drifting in through our open bedroom window). It must be common.

Sounds like your neighbour had made an effort to be nice to you, but you don't like her swearing or smoking which is your business, but no basis to be rude to her when she's been perfectly willing to apologise for the (other) noise.

I like the applause idea - lets them know you can hear them without causing WW3.

If you are willing to talk to her, why not mention you'd prefer she didn't swear around your kids too.

In my opinion, screamers want people to hear them. It's the thought of being overheard - in urban, built-up living - that stops me from making a noise. It's called exhibitionism, plain and simple.

I like the idea of banging on the wall, shouting SHUT UP!

We spoke to our neighbours when we could hear their teenage son and girlfriend cavorting! However, having read your subsequent posts, not sure that would work so well with your neighbours. I would second banging on the wall, or perhaps adding a few ooohs and ahhhs during their performance, if you dare!

I worry about this but try and be as considerate as I can. For example I put a pillow between the bedhead and the wall when we dtd. Its just basic common courtesy that your neighbour seems to be lacking. If you do speak to her about it you could suggest she moves her bed to the other side of the room?

Thanks for all the suggestions and comments.
fanjo I never said I didn't like her smoking, their her lungs. I never said I mind swearing either. I swear like a trooper, but not in front of another persons 3 year old.
I just included those to points as part of the story in the post thats all. I DO appreciate her apology and I thanked her for coming around. But she still aint my cup of tea. I wasn't rude to her when she invited me for coffee, I just said thankyou, but no.

If you can hear their love making then I'm sure they can hear your kids crying

Except babies can cry every night for months/years sometimes so I'd say you've got the better end of the deal really.

The woman upstairs from me used to get pretty vocal, not sure if it was real or fake. It was evidently a neighbourhood spectacle, as once I heard the bratty little girl next door doing an imitation of it for her friends.