To think its NOT ok to call any child a cheeky little B*!£ard

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Saturday morning I gave ds (5) some dried apple with toffee sauce (out of the graze box)

DP (not ds's dad) asks him what he is eating and ds says 'mummy said it is dried apple, but its dried mango and I don't like it'

DP tells him it is dried apple, and ds shouted in the face of dp 'it is dried mango and I don't like it'

DP totally lost it then with ds, shouting 'if you don't like it don't eat it then you cheeky little bastard'

DS is in tears at this point and I said to dp (quietly) 'dont say that to him'

DP went mental at me then, saying if I want him to treat my ds and his dds equally, then I shouldn't undermine him and he will call him that because he will say it to his dd's.

My response was that they are not MY dd's to tell him not to call them names, but ds IS my child and I donlt like the name calling.

Cue another dramatic response of 'oh now its my children and your children blah blah blah'

AIBU?

MotivatedSperm no he is not

It was very out of character for ds to do this. I was

Your DP should never call children names like that.

But we are thinking about it calmly and rationally. There in nothing like somebody shouting in your face to make your blood boil and react badly.

Your DP probably knows he was out of order but this is something that needs discussing when you are both calm and relaxed.

YANBU

I would be trying to find out if there was a reason for him shouting at your DS, since you say it is out of character for him. Does he speak to his DDs like this?

You need to sit down and agree on family rules. No shouting (and that goes for the DC too) and definitely no swearing.

And if he cannot keep his temper in check, then he is out.