He is 20, she is 14. He has the small room to himself, DD shares with her 9 year old sister.
He spends almost all of his time either at his GF or at his friends house and for the last 3 months has spent one night a week at home. He is on JSA as he cant get a job due to his disability (not disabled enough for DLA etc but too disabled for anyone to offer him a job it seems [anger]) so I was taking £15 a week from him board but now I only take £5 as he spends the "food" portion of his board on shopping with his GF for when they eat there.
I feel that his sister needs the room more. She is 14 and needs some privacy which is hard to come by in a house with a big family. He is hardly ever here and when he is he gets in late and leaves early. As it stands she uses his room when he isnt here but he kicks off that it is still his room and kicks off big style if she so much as leaves a book in there.
A major issue has been the state he keeps it in. Mess I can handle, but it stank. I mean REALLY stank, mainly of BO and Lynx! And it was making the whole upstairs smell so I warned him that if he didnt clear it out and make more effort with his personal hygiene then I would empty it and he would lose it. Having a GF has taken care of the PH issue but it is still a disgusting shit hole and frankly I dont feel he deserves the privilige of his own room when he treats it like that. Tbh it feels as if he is just using it for storage of his crap!
So my idea is that we clear it out (as threatened), repaint it and give it over to DD but keeping some of the wardrobe and shelving for his stuff. And then put a ready bed in there for when he is here, which I know DD wouldnt mind if it meant that she had the room as her own the rest of the week.
He will kick off BIG style at this, but I think that her need is greater than his. I wouldnt charge him any board btw, if we did do this.