AIBU to hide upstairs?

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Every second Sunday without fail, my Husband leaves the house for the entire day to spend with his friends and do blokey stuff. I'm left here with the children and the dog to carry on the normal boring house stuff as normal.

So, last Sunday was a really shitty day and to top the day off nicely baby wouldn't sleep. I was up and down the stairs until 11pm when he finally nodded off. Brilliant timing as 5 minutes later my husband arrives home, fully refreshed from his matey day out.

After about 15 minutes of me ranting about how great he has it, I said that the following Sunday I would be locking myself into my bedroom and acting as if I wasn't home for the entire day. I'd love to go out but I'm broke and have zero cash to do anything with.

I came up here at 3pm after dinner was eaten and all dishes were put away. I have not referred to my plan all week and I'm up here now with laptop, kindle and chocolate.

Husband, every so often strolls into the room with the baby (1 yr old) to see what I'm doing and trying to offload the child to me.

So AIBU to stay up here?

Sorry, every second Sunday. Still too much. Far too much.

How many DC do you have? If two he can take one with him every time he goes.

My weekend, your weekend.
Herein the path to dissatisfaction and divorce may lead...
Your DH is not being reasonable, but by retaliating in the same way, you might be making your point, but I would advise against setting this as a pattern for your weekends.
Mt DP and his Ex ended up doing this. See what I mean.

Next Sunday when he announces that he's off to his friends, grab all your coats and the DC and go along with him.

YADNBU, hope you enjoy your day off! Maybe this will provoke a proper discussion with him so things can change.

I'm worried... OP has not been back for a while. OP, PLEASE tell us you went out to buy chocolate and didn't get sucked in to helping DH with the kids.

muu haa haaaaa no way did I give in. I went to the mega superstore tesco in the next town and stayed there for the guts of 2 hours.

When I got back baby in bed asleep and himself on the couch looking completely shattered.

I breezed in , made coffee and said nothing. I can see him from the corner of my eye trying to think of how to approach what happened today.

This will hopefully lead to a conversation that needs to be had. We're not normally a tit-for-tat couple.

Feet up for the evening, feeling nice and relaxed for some reason

Brilliant

YW (were) BU not to have waited until 3pm though - that's not the day . When your time arrrives in a fortnight be out by 10am.

You go girl!!

YANBU. End of!

I wasn't a tit for tat sort of person until I had children. I consider it a marriage saver. Also the time the chap spends with the children is investment all round as the more they do it the more the will be confident doing it and of course children benefit and love the time with their daddies. If you make it easy for them not to then they won't.

If he has a night out, you have one too on another night - no plans? Just take a walk and sit in the park with a book or see a film on your own, he has a morning off for a hobby, you have a lie in the next day; he is out all day on Saturday, you go out all day on Sunday.

Wait until he's nicely relaxed and then get up and say "see you later, I'm off out for a drink"

He will just have started to think that you're going to take over again ...