to say no to this?

[neuroticmumof3]

My DS (16) is into keeping fit, does mixed martial arts, fencing and used to go to the gym quite a bit but has now decided their weights equipment isn't good enough. He wants to get a weights bench and weights and put it in his bedroom. There really isn't room to do this. He has come up with the idea that we can dismantle his brother's bed (only used when he's home from uni) and then get the weights bench in. I have said no because I think it's impractical and still don't think there will be room. The dismantled bed would have to stay in the bedroom cos there's simply nowhere else to put it. He's going on and on at me and his father (exp) is supporting him in this hare brained scheme. So AIBU?

It doesn't do kids any harm to hear the word no occasionally. You've thought about it and there are very good reasons not to do it. Just because he will try to wear you down is not a reason to give him all his own way.

Agree that it isn't very nice for his big brother to come home and find he no longer has a bed!

Who would spot him if he's doing weights in his bedroom? It sounds unsafe.

Your LHA probably wouldn't allow it with the flooring. Would that help your DS come to terms a bit with a no?

My parents were considering moving their weights stuff upstairs and my dad did some calculations and reckonned the floor wouldn't necessarily support it. He decided the risk of it weakening something even if it didn't cause obvious damage was too big to risk. They live in a solid 70s built house.
Mind you that was a weights' machine, rowing machine, exercise bike step up machine and multigym.
The table tennis table would have stayed in the lounge.

As lovely cuppa says who would spot him?

Also who is going to pay for this gym equipment that needs to be better than what a commercial gym has? It is not going to be cheap for proper kit!

My ex has a running machine. It weighs 15 stone I kid you not!!!!! As you and plenty of others have pointed out the floor may not be strong enough.

You have good reasons to say No.

Say No.

It will be unsafe for him and the property, inconvenient for you and your other son, and you just don't want the grief and the hassle.

I notice his dad's not champing at the bit to install a Home Weights Nightmare in his own house?

Your son needs to stick with the gym. It's better for him socially, and safer for him too.

Stay strong!

YANBU. Can't he join a different gym? if he can't afford to join a private gym, perhaps he could get a job in one? you often get free use of the facilities after your shift, and it would allow him to develop his interest in fitness.

Hi, my DH is a personal trainer and has a home gym in our garage. He would have never had one in our last place because the floor wasn't strong enough. You need a solid concrete floor for free weights, if he drops one, it is likely to go straight through your floorboards. Bear in mind that the more he works out, the heavier the weights are gonna get...

He has a good wholesome hobby that keeps him healthy and demands willpower and self-motivation.

Ok, so maybe the in the bedroom thing is impractical- but there must be a good compromise you can reach together? Even if its wii fit!

I would be keen to show support and come to an amicable solution.