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AIBU?

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AIBU to be so upset about this and not want to leave the house

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kidsscareme · 04/09/2011 09:56

I made an eejit of myself on Friday and have been feeling awful since. Was at an event with a few work colleagues (I am their manager but we do get on really well). All was going fine drinking a few wines and then someone started with the shots. I had 3 in the space of 5 mins and I usually wouldnt have any. Cue me getting quite drunk all of a sudden. One of the girls was giving me a lift home so she bundled me into her car before anyone really noticed. We had an hours journey to get home. I fell asleep, woke up to be sick all over myself and her lovely car.

Its all a bit blurry but DH tells me he woke up to see this poor woman trying to get me to stand up long enough to get a key in the door. He said hes never seen me so drunk and it was like my legs wouldnt work.

Had to take yest off sick as I was so ill. Rang colleague to apologise and she was very sweet.

Im mortified about it all, especially as Im in a position of authority.

AIBU to leave my job and change my identity because Im too mortified to be me anymore

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scuzy · 04/09/2011 10:01

of course YABU. quit your job over this??? just learn from it. its good to interact with work colleagues good for morale but you just made a mistake. be prepared for whispers and teasing. apologise and dont let it happen again. am sure we have all been in this kind of position before. dont beat yourself up over it.

and offer to pay for your colleagues valet and a bunch of flower. washing sick out of a car??? eugh!

GreenEyesandNiceHam · 04/09/2011 10:01

That might be going a tad far

You've got the 'horrors', understandable but not the end of the world. It could have been a lot worse

Take your lovely colleague a bunch of flowers, and brazen it out. Oh and tell your DH to stop rubbing it in talking about it now

kevlarbrassiere · 04/09/2011 10:03

Oooh, that is rather embarrassing.

Find a posh car valet service and buy her a gift of the complete works. Don't ask her if she would like it, just do it.

And go back to work. Everyone makes a fool of themselves at somestage.

Kbear · 04/09/2011 10:03

Face up to them, say "oh God, I am so sorry, but please never let me drink shots again on a night out, I can't handle it" and a big grin. Nearly everyone has done and been mortified and lived to tell the tale. Don't not mention it cos they will all be talking behind your back!

WhoWhoWhoWho · 04/09/2011 10:04

I agree, we all make mistakes! The girl who took you home sounds lovely and I would be getting her flowers and a thorough valet service on her car.

MangoMonster · 04/09/2011 10:05

YABU, it is embarrassing but it has happened to us all at some point. It's not like you make a habit of it and you obviously get on well with your colleagues. It was lovely of her to give you a lift, shows you have a good relationship. Try and forget about it. Being mortified is the worst feeling in the world but it will fade soon.

scuzy · 04/09/2011 10:05

agree - dont act like nothing happened. say you were drunk, mortified and laugh it off. and go back to work!!! soon! cos the longer you are out the more legs the details of the night out will grow.

missmogwi · 04/09/2011 10:07

I have done this and I totally understand how you feel. I thought I'd have to go into hiding and leave the country. I was so embarrassed

As above an offer to have the car valeted and a bunch of flowers would be nice. It's just one of those things! But I know that's easy for us to say when you're in the horrors.

Just carry on as normal at work and laugh it off. You aren't the first and certainly won't be the last!

mummymccar · 04/09/2011 10:13

Oh no! That does sound pretty embarrassing but don't worry everyone has done this at some point.
Maybe you would like to hear some of our embarrassing stories to cheer you up OP?
DP used to be my boss & at his leaving do (before we got together) I got very upset and got very, very drunk. Unfortunately it was early evening drinks and I had a date after. I vomited in the middle of Pizza Express. Several times. Date wasn't impressed.

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kidsscareme · 04/09/2011 10:13

Thanks you have made me feel better already.

I will go back to work tomorrow (cant afford not to!) and buy her a nice present. I have offered to have her car valeted but think I will just go ahead and get her a voucher for the works anyway as suggested.

As for DH, hes going to use this as milage for a long time to come so I will have to brave that out

Hoping the 'horrors' fade soon. (dreamt last night that I married my ex and that is horror enough for anyone)

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kidsscareme · 04/09/2011 10:16

mummymccar thanks for sharing - that made me spit my tea out!

Yes hearing others tales of embarrassment would make me feel better!

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mummymccar · 04/09/2011 10:19

:-)

magicmelons · 04/09/2011 10:27

Oh we've all done apologise, laugh suck up the slagging for a couple of days and they'll forget in a couple of days.

We brought my boss on a night out when I was 21ish she was middle aged ladyish, she got so pissed fell out of a taxi and knocked her front teeth out. We felt horribly guilty as she had been keeping up with us all night. She was so embarassed, it happens and the alcohol will be giving you that depressed heavy heart that always makes things seem worse.

catgirl1976 · 04/09/2011 10:28

Oh dear. But as others have said we have all been there. Apologise, move on and make amends to the girl whose car you were sick in as suggested above.

However, going forward, remember you ARE their manager and not a friend, even if you get on really well you have to draw that line and sadly that means not getting drunk with them. It is not the best idea to socialise with people you manage aside from the odd work / team building event, but if you do - dont get drunk! You have to keep the respect there even out of work I'm afraid :( Which is no fun at all and sometimes really hard, especially when you actually like people and would enjoy being friends with them :(

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kidsscareme · 04/09/2011 10:35

cargirl1976 I feel like my mum came online and told me off!! You're so right though. I do find it hard to draw that line sometimes. I think I will drive to future events so I wont be able to drink. We only socialise for the odd work event but it is still work and I dont want them loosing all respect in me.

Most of my team are quite a bit older than me and I dont want them to think Im young and irresponsible.

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catgirl1976 · 04/09/2011 10:39

Sorry! that's not how I meant it to sound :)

I was speaking from bitter experience if that helps :)

spiderpig8 · 04/09/2011 10:43

It's done now.
Forget it and move on!

ChippingIn · 04/09/2011 10:48

I agree with Kbear (10:03) & with the car valet voucher & flowers.

It's embarassing, but hey ho

ownthreadhider · 04/09/2011 10:51

Just be thankful it was in the privacy of the car so you didn't throw up in front of everyone? Also be grateful you didn't sleep with anyone that's always a bonus .

I feel bad because I nearly pissed myself laughing about the lady who knocked her teeth out. I am a bad person.

wildfig · 04/09/2011 10:56

Everyone's done this at some point. I had the 'one glass too many' glass of wine at a wedding this year and was sick in my handbag on the way home. (It was not a big handbag, sadly). I woke up the next day and spent two hours paralysed with mortification, wondering how I could possibly get to the station without anyone noticing, but it turned out that everyone was so drunk that they were convinced everyone else would be talking about their shocking behaviour.

Going to another wedding with the same friends later this year, and host friend has reassured me that he'll be putting sick bags in the back of the car this time.

Get her car valeted to within an inch of its life, send flowers, swear off shots, and never speak of it again. Meanwhile, console yourself with all the things you didn't do, eg, snog one of the team, snog the girl taking you home, snog the waiter, vomit in the restaurant, wee in the street, etc.

Gastonladybird · 04/09/2011 10:56

Sounds like she is a good friend- flowers and a valet for car great idea as others have said.

And to make you feel better I had similar evening years ago.. I don't remember much (aside from stopping taxi to feel sick). But friends told me I lightened up the evening by snogging a then colleague who was best friend of my then boyfriend...

Oh and as for socialising and drinking with those you manage it's fine if you can handle drink (not so good in case of ome of my bosses who had a dance on the table the fell asleep at a Xmas do or a other who started a fight with someone or the one who was sick all down the stairs of the club they were in... I should add all these peple still in jobs, respected and their behaviour just about forgotten)

Woodifer · 04/09/2011 10:57

If I'm hungover rather than sick - I would book a days leave off rather than phoning in sick. Other than that - what everyone else said.

Gastonladybird · 04/09/2011 10:57

Lol re handbag wildfig- someone else I knew was sick jn his laptop bag. Sadly over laptop... Not sure what good it did it

PattySimcox · 04/09/2011 11:01

Oh we've all done it. First week in a new job I got taken on an all expenses supplier do and got completely slaughtered.

Colleagues had to take me home in a taxi and as I got out I fell over my bag strap face first and my dress blew up to expose my see through knickers and bum while I rolled round on the floor trying to get up.

SnapesMistress · 04/09/2011 11:11

I understand, am currently feeling the effects from last night. Somehow I keep forgetting that quadruple vodka and cokes for £2.50 are the devil in liquid form and keep drinking several of them every saturday. I was rather pished last night and think I fell on someone but can't remember who.

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