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KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 21:43

that my OH started a yomp up Scar Fell at 09:30 this morning and I have heard nothing since :(Angry.

He didn't have a signal at the camp site, so text me as they were setting off up the hill.

So, if he had a signal previously, I am assuming he should still have had one later on when he came down and would text me to let me know he is safe.

We had a bit of a joke before he left about his funeral wishes, the first time in 10 years of marriage that we have discussed it ConfusedBlushGrin.

He works away from home all week and rings every night either to speak to the children, or after they have gone to bed to check all is well.
What I'm trying to say, is he is usually pretty good at ringing and isn't the thoughtless variety of man.

I am pissed off as I know he won't ring now as he knows it is my bed time. I'm sure his whereabouts will be in the deep abyss of my mind, prodding my sub concious all night.

I'm going to be one tired, grumpy Mama tomorrow :(.

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HerdOfTinyElephants · 03/09/2011 22:20

The mobile reception all around Scafell is lousy (or was seven years ago when DH was part of a 3 Peaks attempt and I was the driver). So probably he is fine and just couldn't get reception to call you. But it's incredibly inconsiderate of him all the same, and if he didn't leave details of his route and check in with the campsite on return then it's also incredibly stupid.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 03/09/2011 22:23

I'd phone mountain rescued if you're concerned tbh, I'm in Cumbria and the weather here is horrendous. If he doesn't get in touch give them a call then give him a damn bollocking for not making his route known to others and potentially putting mountain rescuers at risk.

Idiotic behaviour.

browneyesblue · 03/09/2011 22:48

Hope you hear from him soon. Try to get some sleep, and make sure he knows to check in with you in future. He should always leave details of his route - safety first, and all that.

I'm sure he'll feel bad for making you worry.

ballstoit · 04/09/2011 07:47

Any news this morning op?

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 07:53

No news .... but tbh, he knows better than to ring/text me very late at night.

Whereas I was worried, now I'm not, on the basis that if he had come to harm, I'm sure I'd have heard by now.

I expect him to roll through the door moaning about how wet it was.

He will have something further to moan about when I box his bloody ears Grin.

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VeronicaCake · 04/09/2011 08:49

I think at this time of year there are usually so many people walking up Scafell that he'd be unlikely to come to harm and not be noticed.

BUT...in future he needs to give you a written outline of his planned route, the time he expects to be back and you both need to agree a time (usually 2hrs after that) when if you haven't heard from him you call Mountain Rescue. That is just basic mountain sense, even if it means he has to ask if he can use the pub phone to call you.

Hope he is home soon. Tell him DH who used to be a mountain rescue volunteer thinks he is a bit of a twat.

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 08:55

I can't see how mountain rescue think he's a bit of a twat, they've not been impacted by his oversight Hmm and neither would they be unless somebody local called them.

And as I have said more than once, there is a strong possibility he's told someone where he was going etc.

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mummymccar · 04/09/2011 08:59

Try not to worry too much, my dad did this a few months ago. He mumbled something about going hill walking in Wales and then disappeared when my mum went to Sainsburys! He didn't get in contact for 3 days. When he did he was nowhere near Wales. It turned out that his phone battery had died and where he was there were no payphones for miles. He got an earful from everyone but he was fine. It's natural to be worried but I think in this case that if anything had happened you'd have heard by now. Make sure he cooks you something nice to say sorry!

Maryz · 04/09/2011 09:04

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FetchezLaVache · 04/09/2011 09:11

Ka... Firstly, I hope he's OK and home soon for you to rip him a new one.

And secondly, press AltGr and then e and you get é.

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 09:37

Yes maryz, I see your point. I guess there may be a few people who would have rung mountain rescue by now.

This is the woman who broke her pelvis and called a taxi to the hospital because I didn't want to waste an ambulance's time Shock. I had strong words from the hospital for that one Blush.

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VeronicaCake · 04/09/2011 09:37

He's a twat because he has caused you worry unnecessarily and as Maryz says Mountain Rescue go out a lot to find people who have simply taken their time, failed to let people know their route etc. It is easy to avoid this by letting people know where you are going and when you'll be back.

It is also sad but true that most of the people who are seriously injured in the mountains in the UK are not experienced climbers or walkers doing challenging routes, but ordinary folk with inadequate knowledge or kit who get tired, get lost and end up hurting themselves or worse.

Feenie · 04/09/2011 10:50

Has he been in touch yet, OP?

ownthreadhider · 04/09/2011 11:03

Is he with 3 mobile? If so he will have no signal. Some places in my house are not covered.

Hope he is ok op xx

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 11:27

Still no contact :(Angry.

He is on Vodafone and all calls go straight to voicemail, no response from text sent.

Past worried, now onto flipping furious!!!

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IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 04/09/2011 11:28

Any news?
To reassure you slightly, a friend of mine climbed Scar Fell a few weeks ago, and she said it wa so busy with people it was like a motorway. I'm sure he would have been surrounded by plenty of other walkers.

pozzled · 04/09/2011 11:33

I'm sure he's ok, but I'd be bloody fuming as well. Do you know what campsite he is at? If so, I would definitely phone them, and if not I'd probably be checking a map to find the most likely ones and phoning round.

needanewname · 04/09/2011 11:37

I think i'd kill him when he gets home if I were you!

loopylou6 · 04/09/2011 11:37

When is he due home op?

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 11:38

pozzled - I have more of a 'fuck him' type of attitude. I'm not wasting mine and other peoples time trying to track him down.

If he's come to harm, I'll find out soon enough and if he hasn't, I'm brewing nicely to have a pop at him.

It really is unlike him to be so selfish though Confused.

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 11:41

loopylou I would have expected him home by now. I thought he would have got up, packed up and headed home. Home is only about 1 - 1 1/2 hours away.

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Nancy66 · 04/09/2011 11:42

I thought you said you were expecting him back at 7.30 last night?

needanewname · 04/09/2011 11:47

If you were expecting home last night I would deinitely be getting very concerned and contacting someone to let them know he's missing.

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KaFayOLay · 04/09/2011 11:48

No Nancy66 that was when I would have expected him to get back from his walk.

I knew he was camping after that and expected him home this morning.
I would also have expected a text to say he was safe and off the mountain.

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Nancy66 · 04/09/2011 11:50

Oh I see....ok.

Hope he's home soon....just in time for lunch would be my prediction.