To want our mattress on the floor so DD can co-sleep?

[Midori1999]

And have no mattress topper on it?

Our DD is 11 weeks old. She's BF and sometimes co-sleeps as it means I get more sleep. We took the memory foam topper off our mattress when DD was born as it seems unclear if memory foam is safe when co-sleeping. Then we moved house 10 days ago and haven't put our bed up yet. I have told DH that I'd prefer the mattress to stay on the floor so I don't need to worry so much that DD might fall out. He isn't overly happy about it, but agreed it was probably a good idea.

However, he keeps asking about both whether/when we can have the mattress topper back on the mattress and tonight asked if he should put our bed up tomorrow. We have a spare room with a double bed in it (topper is on that for now too) that he could sleep in if he prefers, but he said he 'doesn't want to be one of those couples who sleep in separate beds'.

I don't want to stop co-sleeping as it means I get much more sleep. AIBU?

YANBU. You have an 11 week old baby who I presume is feeding during the night and have found that co-sleeping works for you. I agree that the mattress topped is not safe and should definitely stay off.

As for the mattress on the floor, I think that if it's working for you then that should be enough for your DH. However, if it's becoming a real issue for him I would banish him to the spare room look into getting a bedside cot. We have one and it works well. It gives us more space, although DS2 inevitably rolls back into the main bed during the night.

Have a chat with your DH and try to find a workable solution, but if I was him I would be pretty happy my wife had found a way which works for her and leave it at that.

Christine DD had rolled both ways by 8 weeks. She crawled at 6m. Didn't walk till 14m though. But yes even very tiny babies can roll off beds.

I stand corrected :o

I am with the OP really - co-sleeping was the only way I got through constant feeding and DS didn't go into his own room until about 7 months or so