4 year old crossing the road by themself- dangerous or AIBU

[BimboNo5]

We live in a 'quiet' cul de sac. Ive always told my 4 year old DS he is not to cross the road by us even if he thinks it is safe to (too many twats think its brands hatch driving into the close). A lovely little girl who will be in his class when he starts school in September has been calling for him yet she is allowed to cross the road and I really dont want DS to think its an acceptable thing to do. AIBU to watch him cross?

Bit harsh Andrew. Without knowing the 4 year old girl or the precise cul de sac, how do you know her parents are "foolish"? I wouldn't let my 4 year old either, but I've no doubt a few sensible 4 year olds exist out there, and it's really not my place to judge their parents.

Totally reasonable of the OP not to want her 4 year old to do it, but unreasonable to imply the other parent is necessarily failing in some way (not that the OP did, actually)

OK grubbalo forget foolish - but otherwise I stand by what I wrote.

Two options that I see OP has here on the road crossing front.

1. If it is a cul de sac DS can got out if he walks around on the pavement.

Or

1. DS does not go out to play, and will accept the fact of life idea that some friends can do things that he cannot, (and vice versa).

OP YANBU to watch him cross, but will you be out to watch him cross back?