to think that people should be nicer

[Theala]

A friend of mine and her husband regularly volunteer for a charity that helps handicapped people. Regularly, as in every saturday, some fridays, and a fair few sundays.

Last sunday they were short of people so me and OH went to help out. Some Woman, who accompanied one of the handicapped people, was very very rude to my friend, to the extent where we were actually wondering if she knew we were volunteers or thought that we were getting paid, maybe.

I really really wanted to say to the woman "do you know that we are actually doing this for free so that your child can benefit?". But I didn't. AIBU?

Unless you give more information OP it is very difficult to say. However, it might be worth thinking about the whole 'they should be grateful' theme. People with disabilities and their carers often get fed up with the implication that they should be grateful for any help they get and therefore should not complain if it is of a poor quality. Without knowing what the woman said and the context it is of course impossible to judge this scenario.

I have generally found that people who want other people to be 'nicer' are precious, self-absorbed whinyarses who think they can say what they like to and about others but shit themselves and make a huge scene at the slightest criticism of their own behaviour.
DOes that help you decide, OP?

at SGB

Lol at sgb proving the op's point perfectly.

yabu for using the word handicapped, even when told not to.\

why were they rude? what happened?

Some people are rude. Full stop. I don't think paid or unpaid is an issue.

As for 'handicapped', as you were translating from the french I can understand why you used it. I wasn't aware of the origin of it until I saw it on here. It's 'cap in hand' as in begging. I don't use it now.

Though I just looked on Snopes and found this. So maybe MN was wrong?

Well the OP gives no example of what the rudeness was, and her tone suggests that anything short of slavish dribbling gratitude would have been 'rude'.

What crap sgb.

Her tone suggests nothing of the sort.

The OP could well be completely unreasonable but you are just making shit up.

Well, it wouldn't be ok to be rude to paid staff either. The fact that you are wondering if she knew that you are not getting paid makes me think that she wasn't really 'rude' but more likely expecting good service. Which is right.

Most nurseries have unpaid trainees. Are you extra 'nice' to them? Do you bow with graditude?

EvenLessNarkyPuffin it still isn't used anymore.
do you think the op will ever come back and tell more?

I know. I may just have to re-evaluate everything if MN can be wrong.

Most recent training I had says that activity limitation is to supersede disability.