Relatives who drive you to insanity

[GeraldineAubergine]

I have just been speaking to my aunt, whom I love deeply, but she drives me insane. I am a nurse and I work in theatres. It's quite specialised and I worked hard to do my training. My aunt refuses to believe that I have such a responsible job and even though I have told her a thousand times what I do, acts completely incredulous if eg we are watching a surgical tv programme and there is a scrub nurse, she will say 'oh but that's not like your job Geraldine'.
To make matters worse my brother used to be a nurse, then became a rep, was last registered 15 years ago. Any health prob she has she phones him straight away. I feel like screaming 'BUT IM A NURSE, HERE AND NOW, ASK ME!'. but obviously I never do. I just feel really exasperated by her. It's like she's doing it on purpose. I'm close to her since my mum died and she's lovely in most ways but this one thing is making me unfeasibly angry. Aibu or do other posters ever get this?

My family on mum's side think it's a terrible shame i couldn't get a job in sainsbury's so had to go to university and now then don't believe i got a degree. They all pity me for having a responsible job - why would anyone want that? all that pesky learning new things. Surely the dream is to have the same job everyday for the rest of your life so you just do it by rote then you can go home.

My nan on my dad's side refused point blank to accept that i had a degree similar to my male cousins. She even looked at me with contempt once and told me not to be so stupid how could I possibly be as qualified/clever as her beloved grandsons.

Sad really. 'But then don't ALL the geeerrlls have lovely bottoms!' (Fave line from father ted).

My FIL regularly used to make comments along the lines of 'If you want [DH] to get on with some DIY, why not make sure he has his tea on table when he gets in, so he can crack on with it asap.'

Ignoring the fact that DH used to get home at 5.30, whereas I finished work after 6pm. I think he feels much more comfortable now I work pt . He has also NEVER asked me anything about my job, apart from once indicating that he thought it involved filing (btw when I worked ft I earned considerably more than DH does).

YANBU. DH is a pharmacist. FIL a retired GP. Refuses to believe his son knows anything about drugs. On the other hand, my mother always comes to me (dentist) and to DH for second opinions as we are "medical people".

YANBU - DHs mum and partner always tells DH about driving laws. DH is a criminal lawyer, but will they listen? No, instead they like to tell us all about the legalities of driving every time we visit . Weirdos. Plus they are wrong. Double weirdos.

Years ago I made a joke about wanting to be a lady of leisure in the presence of massively irritating FIL.

Ever since then he has said to me with monotonous regularity "You've got to have a work ethic, you know" as if I need to buck up my ideas and not rely on my husband.

Never mind that I have a degree, unlike his son, and just had a promotion....

Still, that's just the tip of an iceberg named 'Reasons to kill my FIL'.