To Be So Cross With DH

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We're due to go to a wedding tomorrow night (evening do). I've not had any invitation and it's all been organised by boy talking to boy so I've just let DH deal with it. Some weeks ago he called me off the cuff and said something along the lines of "this wedding, the groom needs to know if we're going to stay at the hotel or not, I think we don't stay and just take the baby (6mo) with us". For some reason I did not question the logic and said, sure whatever. Over the weeks I've thought hmm, not sure about this but I'm sure he's got it all planned.

Fast forward to this morning and wow, turns out it isn't a good idea to take a baby to a wedding evening do after all - who knew! And if I thought it wasn't a good idea I should have said something sooner even though I regularly get flamed for always wanting things my own way.

So am I being unreasonable in thinking he's a complete PITA and that the fact we now need a babysitter at very short notice is neither my fault nor my problem?

Ps. what I'm saying is go have a good time leave him with the tired baby while you have fun!!

YAB a B U My niece took her 8 month old to an evening do and he was fine. So you might have been able to take the baby. But you've got a baby sitter now so you can enjoy a baby free evening. To those who say men are incapable of organising they are not all like that. In fact DH is the one who organises our holidays.

Sorry thought you had got a babysitter. Just take the baby he'll be fine and will probably sleep in the pram. But make sure your DH takes turns in watching the baby.

You are being unreasonable for not asking what the arrangements are- surely you needed to know what to pack before this morning? I suspect you knew itbwasn't proprlybthought aout and were being passive aggressive about the whole thing. But loads of other people on here are being wildly unreasonable when they say "oh, it's no use asking a man to organise anything. - they just can't do it, poor lambs." Yes they bloody can, they just either choose not to or aren't allowed to. Stop treating men like children, then they'll stop behaving like children.

Wasn't intending to be passive aggressive and the wedding is close by so didn't need to pack or whatever. Assumed we'd just put him to sleep in pram but then got thinking about carseat/swapping to pram/if we were driving/taxi, who would realistically look after him whilst there and real logistics etc so called to check with him what he thought and that's when it all went wrong.

i dont think its your fault. both are you are in this relationship and surely he would know that you bothhave a baby and that your babay is included as part of your family now. men....they need to use their top heads to think..even if it is sometimes

i agree with mumeeee, be sure that you take turns looking after the babay that belongs to the both of you