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AIBU?

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To stop cooking for H?

31 replies

Runlolarun · 26/08/2011 07:21

last night I was experimenting with a new recipe. I didn't think it was particularly great, but H and DC1 seemed to really enjoy it.
Tonight we had friends over and my husband was trying to ridicule me and my cooking to our friends, by saying how disgusting it had been! (immature showing off! :) )
I know I shouldn't be bothered, especially as I didn't think it was all that good myself, but it really pissed me off that he seemed to just want our guests to laugh at me.
Anyway, AIBU to stop cooking for him for a while? I actually truly detest cooking for him. I love it when he works away and the kids and I can eat quick, wholesome food!
I think I just answered my own question! But humour me and tell me what you all think :)

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ouryve · 26/08/2011 23:15

It is, Rowena! :o I get around ;)

ImperialBlether · 26/08/2011 23:34

Your husband sounds vile, OP - sorry, but he does! Certainly you should stop cooking for him.

But about your cooking. You say your children dislike your cooking too. What is it about your cooking that they dislike? Do you follow recipes or do you do your own thing? (That's usually unsuccessful, in my opinion, unless someone's a really good cook.)

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/08/2011 00:06

I'm sorry OP but you have kids together. You both owe it to THEM to behave like adults and talk to each other when one or other causes upset. You sound as if you have a lot of issues going on and to me your post reads as if you'd like your husband to not be around. If your marriage isn't working then take the steps to sort it or get the hell out of it, but this 'game playing' is pathetic and it will hurt your children.

redwineformethanks · 27/08/2011 09:12

I think it would be a bit petty to go on strike and refuse to cook. That's not really dealing with the issue. His friends would think he was rude to criticise you. Don't worry about them.

It's disrespectful to laugh at your cooking at all and even worse to make jokes to others

I'd call his bluff, explain politely that you're cooking as best you can, it upsets you when he laughs at your meals and which would he prefer (a) he cooks for himself or (b) you cook and he doesn't make fun of it? Let him choose

Runlolarun · 27/08/2011 10:39

Thanks for you input guys!
Tonight I had a vague idea what we were having, but said he could get on with it! He went out and bought loads of (unnecessary) extras to go with it. We are pretty skint at the moment, so I have been trying to meal plan and be more frugal/strict. It kind of sums up our differing appetites/desires though. I can stick to a budget. He has to eat as much as possible and everything has to be gourmet. and that is why I hate cooking for him. :) ANYONE can be a fantastic cook on the ingredients he buys!

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VivaLeBeaver · 27/08/2011 11:24

I stopped cooki g for my dh for similar reasons over two years ago. Best thing I ever did. He's strict vegi and semi vegan and doesn't eat pasta or rice so cooking was a nightmare but I'd go out my way to do stuff. He'd moan about my culinary skills and feed dinner to the chickens so I stopped. He sorts himself out now and I've never backed down.

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