To feel ill that the man I like has gone on holiday with his ex?

[MilkandWine]

Only been out with him a couple of times (I've just come out of a 5 year relationship) but I really, really like him.
The first time we went out he mentioned that he was desperate to go away on holiday but had nobody to go with. I felt as if he was almost hinting for me to go with him! Then a week later he text me and said he wasn't sure if he had done the right thing but he had arranged to go away for 10 days with his ex. I made mention of that being rather 'cosy' and he said he would have asked me but seeming as though I barely know him I might have found him odd if he had.

I've seen him once since but I don't really know the ins and outs of his and the exs relationship. I'm trying to play it cool and didn't want to come over all jealous. He's now gone away but before he left he text saying he was looking forward to seeing me when he gets back, that he really does want to see me etc.

I know I barely know him and it's nothing to do with me what he gets up to really but I'm now stressing that him and his ex are going to rekindle their romance and end up getting back together. I'm totally resigned to the fact they will probably have a holiday shag or two but I really don't want them to get back together. I want him basically!

He posted some pics of them on FB and she really looks like an older version of me (same hair/skin type, way of doing her make up). I know I need to calm down and stop stressing but argh, it's a nightmare! I am so so jealous!

You say you haven't known him that long, so I'm guessing you don't know anything about his relationship witg his ex? For example, is she his last girlfriend, or an ex from his teens? I would still call the boy I went out with in year 9 my ex, 11 years later :-) . I would give him the benefit of the doubt until you know all the details.

I would walk away-sounds endless trouble.

Fabbychic Well he has another ex who he went out with for 5 years and they are best friends. He says why throw away a great friendship just because you don't fancy each other any more? I agree with him on that score.

Just in this instance I'm not convinced they HE won't rekindle the old flame with this one. I will have to wait and see (I can't do anything else, ha)

Yep, I am great friends with my ex as well. I really do live on the same planet as you Fabby fgs. I was giving my opinion on how I saw it. Sorry if that "bakes your noodles"

I thought you said "don't really know the ins and outs of his and the exs relationship". Now you say yuo have asked his brother and friends about it. So which is it?

And while I'm at it, yes YABU to "feel sick" about this about a man you've been out with a couple of times.

Curryspice
No I haven't asked the ins and outs. I just know from speaking to them briefly that he is single at the minute. I haven't sat them (or him) down and asked for a timeline or anything, I wouldn't show them all I was that bothered this early on.

How long ago did they split up? How long were they together? Who split up with who?

Either way, you need to calm down!