To be sad that some people who I have told about my pregnancy aren't happy or have congratulated me?

[WantToKnowThis]

I just want to know how you would react if someone you used to work with messaged you on FB and told you, they were pregnant. Would you reply with a congratulations straightaway? I have done this to an ex-colleague (I don't have her number anymore to phone her up), and she has been commenting on other ex-colleagues statuses, but hasn't messaged me back to say congratulations. It's been a few days now.

I feel a bit down. This is the third person who I have told who doesn't seem to care. I don't expect someone to go all gooey and gaga over my pregnancy, but a simple congratulations would be nice wouldn't it? Or am I expecting too much?

As far as I am aware, we had a good relationship at work - she only messaged me 2 months ago to fill me in on the gossip at her work place, and I have her as a reference on my CV. I don't know what's changed.

Please be kind! I'm already hormonal about this as it is.

What VaginaPuddleduck said. When I get a chatty social FB message I tend to put it mentally to one side for a while until I get around to writing a "proper" chatty replyy

DontGoCurly No, we have general chit chat on FB through messaging since I left last year. I don't really write anything about myself of FB statuses. We spoke back in June too. I also don't upload any statuses about any success in my life, because I find it embarrassing - I mainly keep in touch with people through private messages as it's more personal that way.

Maybe she does think I'm showing off? But she knows my history and how hard it's been for me to get pregnant, so I thought she would be a bit happy for me.

Wait till scan days come and go and noobody wants to look at your storm cloud! I had a hormonal whinge at dp after the 20 week scan about how nobody cared and how they weren't excited enough. :o

Thats the thing crosshair, I told everyone after my 20 week scan. Maybe I'm just having a hormonal whinge like you did

At one point I was telling dp to be more excited and demanding he jazzed the whole experience up untill it met my obviously mental expectations. Now at 21 weeks im playing it cool.

Brilliant! Actually, as long as DH is happy I shouldn't really care should I? Because it's OUR baby! Okay...that hormonal episode lasted about an hour.

Thanks all. I feel better now. Who cares if no one replies to me? I shouldn't have such high expectations of people. At least I'm happy!! Phew.

Glad you are feeling a bit better WantToKnowThis It can be really difficult and hurtful when someone doesn't react the way you expect them to, especially with your first pregnancy. I've been thinking about this all week actually because I've been going through the same thing with a close friend. We told people on friday that we are expecting our first, I tried to contact her but got no response, my mum told hers so I know that she knows but I still haven't heard anything. It has been gutting to see her post on facebook about a great song she loves and how much she is looking forward to her holiday, and yet not take 2 seconds out to message me to say 'congrats'. It is easy to be angry and hurt, but I've realised in the last couple of days that it just simply isn't on her radar. She isn't trying to be hurtful, she just probably doesn't quite know how to respond. My cousin told me she was pregnant during a random chat on facebook and it took me so much by surprise that it took me about an hour to process before I phoned her. Your friend may just not know quite how to react to this news, especially if she knows how much it means to you.
And everyone on here is exactly right, if you and your DH are happy then who cares about anyone else?
Congratulations!

No, deffo doesn't sound like showing off then!

Ah screw em, and congratulations btw!