Husband signed up on a speed date website

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He just done it this afternoon
I am not mad nor sad, just thinking how childish it is
He got an new iphone and have been playing with this for the last week so I guess he just runned out of apps and tried this one?
I know the reasons, I know I am cold and we both know I am not interested in sex at all for a long time and this makes him hurt and angry. We also both know that I didn't even wanted a marriage but done so for the sake of the child that came by surprise...but we are quite open and honest to each other so him dating online came as a big surprise.
Believe or not, he always ignored computers, internet, relatonship sites and he never had an email until few months ago when I created one for him as he was looking for a new job so he needed one email address. Up until the last week I was responsible for checking his emails as he was not inetrested at all even though I was pushing him to get online. He just learnt how to use his email because he needed this for his iphone. And today at lunch time I was talking on the phone to the agent responsible for the flat we were renting (husband was beside me) and we were discussing the payiment of our deposit, so the agent said she sent an email to husband and he told me he never received it, so I told him I would check properly tonight. So he knew I would check his emails tonight and went there and signed up for a dating site in the afternoon....does he want me to see it, or was just naive??
Should I confront or just pretending I dont know nothing??
Gues it is better than using porno as he liked it and had loads od dvds before it, but now dont do it anymore....is playing dating online a scapism??

I used to be a very passionate person and was deeply in love with every man I ever had a relationship with and there were loads of them. Mind you I am 33 with three serious relationships (sharing home and bills) in my CV plus all the other ones. This time is different I always been with husband for completely different reasons other than love and passion. Which is funny because before him I had men fighting for me but when I met him I was really lonely, depressed and sad. So I saw him as a good friend. Than got pregnant.
I sacrificed many things for the husband who cheated on me so that is why sacrifced again with now husband for the sake of child.
Thanks the questions are doing me good
but I guess my past and history is extensive...

Have you thought that what may happened is that you were badly hurt by the husband who cheated on you, and that locking your natural sex drive away is an effective method of ensuring that you cannot be hurt again?

Choosing to marry again to a sexually inexperienced man who you claim to neither love nor loathe may also be a way of making sure that your apparent indifference to him won't cause you any emotional hurt if he cheats on you.

You've been with your current husband for c6 years which is a long time to live in a prison of your own making, particularly as it is one which appears to have caused him considerable unhappiness.

Make an appointment to see your GP and ask to be referred for counselling. Tell your husband that you intend to seek help and ask him to be patient for a while longer.

If it shoud eventually transpire that this marriage is at an end, set him free with compassion and dignity.

It sounds like you just don't fancy him. Or love him even. I didn't pick up any passion when you talk about him at all. I actually feel quite sorry for the guy. That is not meant as a criticism of you, by the way.