I have 3 ds's one almost 18 years old, 15 year old and a 7 year old who has ASD.
My almost 18 year old is going to Reading festival on Saturday and has asked me to go with him tomorrow to buy his tent.
Anyway the back story is ds is lazy and i think the only reason he has asked me to go with him, is so that he doesnt have to get the bus. He says that all i do is moan at him, which is true, lately i dont seem to do anything but moan at him.
For example i went to visit my parents at the weekend and took my other 2 ds's with me (my two older ds's had literally just got back from a 2 week holiday with their father). Ds 18, stayed at home to look after the pets, 2 of which are kittens. I left him a list of when to feed the pets, empty the litter tray once a day etc and also told him before i went.
When i got home the house stunk of cat wee and shit. The kittens had shat on his bed and on a pile of clothes he had left on the floor in his bedroom. He had not emptied their litter tray for the 3 days i was gone because he "didnt realise he had to". Obviously i moaned at him.
Another example, he dropped out of his A levels because he couldnt get up in the morning (he has now enrolled on another course)
Admittedly i do seem to be constantly moaning at him about tidying up after himself etc if i didnt he wouldnt bother.
So should i see this taking him to buy a tent, as a bit of mother - son time, as we dont do much together anymore because of his age or this is just another example of him being lazy?