Another mil one....was she unreasonable to announce my contraceptive choice to everyone?

[Moulesfrites]

My ds is 7 mo. When he was about 10 weeks I was trying to decide what type of contraception to use. ,y mil used to be a nurse and I told her, in a private conversation that I was having the implant fitted.

Last week were were having lunch with pils, bil and sil, and another couple, friends of the family. The conversation came round to other bil, who wasn't there. He and his wife have had 2 unplanned babies in the space of a year, and people were joking about when they will have another one. Mil pipes up, "oh no, sil has has the implant fitted just like moules"!

Aibu to think this was bit off?

As another poster mentioned, it is more off that you were all gossiping and joking about another family member's unplanned babies behind their backs.
MIL was sticking up for her son by stating they had got their contraception sorted, just like you.

Is it not normal behaviour to chat about other family members if they are not there then?

It is hardly "gossiping" when it is your own family you are chatting about.

Yes it is squeaky, i just think the op is making a big deal out of nothing and pointing out that it's double standards to think that her private stuff should stay private whilst happily gossiping away about somebody else's private stuff.

YADNBU, do some people come from Planet Gobshite or what?

I would never ever discuss someone else's contraceptive choices, difficult to think what could be more private, perhaps what sexual position they prefer?

I mean, in such a conversation I might volunteer the information myself "Oh dear, it does sound a bit unreliable, I must try something else"! But that is VASTLY different than saying to all and sundry "Oh dear DIL that doesn't sound too good for your Implanon does it?"

Now you know not to tell her anything in confidence again :)

She probably didn't think, it's not malicious.

Wait until she confides in you about her rip-snorting piles problem and then get your own back over a packed dinner table.

Methods of contraception being discussed wouldn't really bother me that much, but remember she doesn't have the right valves in her brain and mouth that stop personal info spilling out. Learn from it, and don't tell her anything you don't want to become common knowledge.

Should add I wasn't joining in with the gossip - it was those kind of cliched " haven't they got a tv" jokes which I do find a bit crass tbh. I don't think mil was sticking up for bil as she is his biggest critic! I wasn't outraged by it, just though it was a bit odd and tactless of her tbh.